I’m Not A Bitch, I’m A Badass Woman

I’m Not A Bitch, I’m A Badass Woman ©iStock/CoffeeAndMilk

I’ve been called a bitch more times than I can count — not because I was actually being one, but because I’m strong, independent, and confident enough to go after what I deserve in life. If people don’t like it, too bad — I’m a badass woman who knows what I want and I’m not afraid to go out there and get it.

  1. I watch out for myself. At the end of the day, the only person you can trust to take care of you is you. You’re responsible for your own happiness and well-being. When you take charge of them, you take charge of your life.
  2. I’m confident and not afraid to show it. It’s such a misogynistic racket when women are made to feel bad for liking themselves. Show a little confidence and suddenly you’re self-absorbed, obnoxious, and repugnant. Both men and women attack badass women because we make them feel uncomfortable. Oddly enough, confident men aren’t treated that way…
  3. I take control because I know what I’m doing. If you have a problem with me running the show just because I have a vagina, go screw yourself. Women have proven time and time again to be capable, thoughtful and thorough leaders. I would argue that most of our missteps happen only when we doubt ourselves and listen to the criticism of others. There’s plenty of it to go around, so sometimes it’s hard to shut out, even for the most badass of bitches.
  4. I trust myself and know myself. Confidence isn’t rooted in perfection. It’s rooted in a deep understanding and acceptance of your own strengths and flaws. I’m a badass because I trust my own instincts over the opinions of others. If you’re constantly swayed by what others say, you’ll never truly be you. People won’t like it when you brush them off — that’s where the “bitch” part comes in. Screw them. They’re only proving you right.
  5. I stand up for myself when necessary. Oh, OK, wasted guy at the bar. I’m a bitch because I tell you to leave me alone instead of being “nice” and putting up with your BS? Give me a break. Go back to your lonely, empty apartment where you belong.
  6. I have opinions. Once again, men share their opinions all the time and it doesn’t seem to be a problem. A woman does so, and suddenly she’s a pain in the ass. Sorry to break it to you — I’m both intelligent and well-informed. I don’t pull my reasoning out of my ass, especially because I have to work twice as hard as a man to have myself heard.
  7. I stick by what I believe in. I don’t care if it’s trendy or popular. I feel how I feel, I know what I know, and I see what I see. I form my belief system based on that, and because it has a strong foundation it’s unlikely to waver. I’m not a bitch just because you can’t make me change my mind. I’m not unreasonable, but I’m not fickle either.
  8. I’m passionate. If you aren’t, what the hell is the point? Existing passively day in and out with no fire in your soul is not life. If my ambition, drive and zest for life somehow make me bitchy in your eyes, so be it. I’ll take that as more incentive to nurture my badass self.
  9. I don’t put up with anyone’s crap. Whether you’re my friend, my boyfriend, or my family, I’m gonna call you out on your crap. Sorry about it. I’m not here to babysit your feelings, I’m here to help you grow and develop as a human being. I expect you to do the same for me.
  10. I won’t associate with anyone who doesn’t appreciate my badass self. Life is too short to surround yourself with the wrong people. Find the other badasses around you and create your tribe. You think I’m a bitch? That’s fine. Thanks for the easy indicator that you don’t belong in my life.
A former actress who has always loved the art of the written word, Amy is excited to be here sharing her stories! She just completed her first novel, and is also a contributor for Elite Daily, Dirty & Thirty, and Thought Catalog. Amy is the founder of What If Journey and can be found on Twitter @amyhorton18. You can also visit her website at amyhorton.net.