When you’ve been screwed over by guys time and time again and had terrible experiences in love, it changes you. I should know — I’m living proof of it. But I’m sick of being labeled as bitter just because I’ve learned from being screwed over. I’m perfectly happy living the life I’m living now, but that doesn’t mean that what I’ve had to endure along the way doesn’t upset me to look back on. I’m not bitter; I’ve just been hurt way too many times.
- If I got over everything so easily, how would I grow as a person? Moving on completely unscathed might come naturally to some, but that’s not my reality. The truth is that by riding out my emotions and by accepting some of the anger and resentment I’ve stored up, it makes me stronger and smarter than I was before I went through all the BS.
- You learn through reflection, good and bad. The fact that I tend to replay and reflect on the disappointing experiences in my past is a good thing, in my opinion. It’s what helps me learn from them. Plus, holding on to a bit of that heartbreak means I won’t make those mistakes again.
- It takes a strong heart to admit that I’m jaded. I’ll be the first one to admit that I”ve got baggage when it comes to relationships. I admit that I’ve had my heart broken more times than I ever imagined. I stand in my truth because hiding who I am and what my real life experiences are makes me feel phony.
- It must be nice to have a mild past of your own. Maybe those who call women like me bitter have the exact same gut-wrenching, soul-crushing, constant defeat in their pasts too, but probably not. You can judge the book by its cover, but you know nothing unless you’ve read the whole story.
- My experiences have exhausted me. I didn’t choose to be jaded — it just kind of happened. When a person puts their heart out there over and over again only to be left with broken pieces to constantly repair, they eventually reach their limit. Maybe I seem bitter, but you would too if you’d been through some of what I have.
- I’m doing the best I can. I can only do so much. I know sometimes I might come across bitter, jaded and angry at some of the things that have happened to me, but I’m working on it. That’s all I can really do at the moment. I’m not living my life to please anyone else, so stop judging me.
- With time, it does get better. The bitterness I used to hold strongly in my heart has faded over time, and I know it’ll continue to get better. Patience and understanding would go a long way in helping this process.
- Everyone experiences life and love differently. In the end, we all have our own paths in life, and mine has been particularly rocky. Believe it or not, but even though I’ve been hurt, hope is still alive and well in my heart. I still believe love is out there for me. If I have a little bit of bitterness from experiences behind me, that’s OK, because the hope will override those fears when the right one finally shows up.
