I’m Ready For Love, But Only If It’s Real

I’m Ready For Love, But Only If It’s Real ©iStock/Sneksy

A certain kind of magic happens when you realize that you’re totally calm about still being single. I no longer get that OMG-what-is-my-life feeling 10 times a day, and yeah, I want to meet someone, but I’m really not in any hurry. I may be ready to fall for someone but that doesn’t mean I’ll be cool with just anything. It has to be 100 percent real.

  1. I can be patient. It would be awesome to meet my person tomorrow, but if it takes another few months or even a year, that’s OK. I’ve realized that rushing love makes zero sense, and even if I tried, I couldn’t do it. Being able to wait until I really feel a connection with someone is bound to bring me real love instead of all the almost relationships that have come my way.
  2. I don’t give a damn what anyone thinks. Sometimes people think I’m too harsh because I rarely go on second dates, but that’s not the case at all. I truly don’t care if someone thinks I should accept more second chances, because I’m not going to. I need to feel something and if I don’t, I’m cool with my life as it is right now.
  3. Being single is more fun than a crappy relationship. At my loneliest moments, when I wonder if meeting anyone legit is even possible, I remember that I’d rather be on my own than in a super frustrating and painful relationship. I can hold out for something that matters.
  4. I’m worth real love. I could have a BF tomorrow if I was willing to accept just anyone, but that’s not how I roll. There’s no point settling for anything less than real love. It wouldn’t be as magical or as meaningful.
  5. I’ve walked away a lot. I have no problem standing up for myself in truly bad situations, and that’s happened a few times. If I wasn’t holding out for something real, I would have just stayed. But after a while, it becomes really obvious when something isn’t working, and it’s pretty painless to walk away.
  6. You get what you ask for. It’s crazy to whine that a guy isn’t treating you the way that you want because guess what? You’re the one in control. It’s so much better to leave when things go downhill and wait for something that I deserve.
  7. I’m not going to change now. If I wasn’t OK with being super single for a long time, I would have settled a long time ago. Why would I change now out of the blue? That would totally discount all the hard work I’ve done getting to know myself and figuring out how to be happy. So I’m good with my world the way that it is, and I’ll wait for real love, whenever it decides to show its face.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.