I’m Sick Of Chasing Guys — It’s Time They Chase Me For A Change

I’m consistently putting myself out there and I’m not afraid to make the first move in dating. I want to find love and I’m investing a lot in the pursuit but I’m running out of energy. I’m tired of chasing after guys and never finding a true catch, so I’m giving up the chase and letting the guys come after me for a change. Here’s why:

  1. I’m sick of doing all the work. I’m making an effort here, but it’s not paying off, so I’m going to give myself a little vacation from chasing love. I’m not quitting; I’m just not going to keep doing the same thing over and over again hoping for different results. If Einstein said that’s the definition of insanity then I’m going to believe him. I’m done doing all the work because really, where has it gotten me?
  2. If it’s fate, he’ll find me. I believe in “The One,” so it’s about time I put my faith in destiny. As much as I want to believe I have control over my own life, I keep getting told otherwise. Life wants the reigns, so I’m officially giving them up. I’ve tried to steer my own horse and I haven’t gotten very far. It’s about time I let loose and let life steer me in the right direction for a change.
  3. Chasing guys makes me feel desperate. I need to start playing hard to get; otherwise, I’m just plain easy. I don’t want to force, trick, or beg a guy to be with me and I shouldn’t have to. I want a guy who can’t help but go after me, fall for me, and finally commit to me because he sees my worth and wants me to be part of his life. Isn’t that the dream?
  4. Am I not worth the effort? I’m working so hard to find a great guy, but I want one who’s willing to put in the same effort to find me. I want a guy who will go the extra mile because I’d do the same. I want someone who puts in just as much work as I do. I want to be chased, because I deserve to feel like somebody’s catch.
  5. This game feels so immature. Chasing guys makes me feel like I’m back on the playground. Elementary school was so long ago and it’s about time I learn something from it. If a guy’s going to run, he’s not worth it, and chasing him down won’t do anything but make me feel miserable in the end.
  6. I want to start enjoying the single life. The single life is supposed to be fun. I should be basking in the glory of my freedom, but instead I’m wasting all my single days on what seems to be a wild goose chase. I want to go out and have fun without the pressure of landing a guy’s phone number by the end of the night. Maybe if I start enjoying my life again, I’ll finally attract a good guy to come after me.
  7. Sometimes you need to stop looking for love. Instead, I’m going to let love find me. I’m ready for love, but I need to take a break from looking. It’s a cliche idea that you find love when you stop pursuing it, but I’m willing to give it a try. I want to be a free spirit again, and taking a break may be just the thing my love life needs.
  8. I want a guy who will fight for me. Don’t I deserve that much? I’m willing to fight for love, so shouldn’t my love be willing to fight for me? I want to be the object of some guy’s affection. I want to be the girl he can’t live without. I want the romantic gesture of the best romantic movies. I want to be chased. Is that so much to ask?
  9. The more I chase guys, the more I end up with my heart broken. I always seem to chase after the wrong guys — the ones who take my love for granted and are anything but fragile with my heart. I just don’t know how to pick them, so I’m going to give a good guy a chance to pick me. I’m done chasing down heartbreakers.
  10. I’m a catch. I’m not afraid to say that. I have confidence. I’m a great girl and any guy would be lucky to have me. I’m too good for chasing guys like there’s no tomorrow. I have plenty of time to let a good one find me and settle down. I’m a catch and I deserve to start having fun in the single life again.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.