I’m Sick Of Having My Heart Broken, So I’m Going To Protect Myself

I’m Sick Of Having My Heart Broken, So I’m Going To Protect Myself ©iStock/Mammuth

The past several years of my life, I’ve been searching, hoping, waiting and wishing for a love that hasn’t quite showed up yet — but that’s OK. I’ve learned a ton of valuable lessons on this journey that’s made me into the strong and badass woman I am today. I’ve had my heart broken too many times to count. The tears and the rejection had basically become a regular part of my life, but I’m so over it now. I’m done with constantly being disappointed and wasting my time with guys who weren’t in my life for good and honest reasons. I’m sick of having my heart broken, and for that reason, I’m going to protect myself at all costs.

  1. I won’t be baited by cliche lines. I know better now than to let my walls fall away simply with affectionate words. A guy can tell me I’m beautiful until he’s blue in the face, but that’s not what will get me to fall for him. I’m done with accepting compliments at face value. I want a guy who cares enough to be creative.
  2. I care less about promises and more about actions. I’m sick of being promised things that never come to pass. I’m sick of getting excited about futures that don’t exist. From now on, the only way my heart will open up truly is when a guy actually follows through on his words. It’s easy to talk about plans, but bringing them to life is when the magic starts to happen.
  3. Players won’t even get a second glance from me. I’ve got an eagle eye on dirtbags and can spot them from a mile away now. I’m done giving these players the time of day. Dating one more jerk after all that I’ve been through isn’t an option — it’s never worth the gamble. In order to avoid further heartbreak, I know I need to avoid those types of guys completely now.
  4. I truly believe I deserve more than guys have offered me. I know in my heart that what I’ve been through, although necessary for growth, is unnecessary going forward. I didn’t deserve to have my heart broken as many times as it has been, but that crap is over with and done now — I can’t change it. I’m simply going to be more cautious as I keep moving on.
  5. I’m strong enough to know better now. All of those heartbreaks taught me something new about myself. Each time something hurt me and left me with so many unanswered questions, I got valuable lessons and answers. The fact that I’ve survived shows just how amazingly strong I am and I plan on using my new wisdom on building a brighter future — one that I embark on with a more focused eye.
  6. I won’t give myself away freely anymore. I used to give up the greatest parts about me sooner than I should have and I know better now than to make those mistakes again. I’m sick of focusing so much of my energy on guys that never really deserved it. Now, a guy will need to be open with me before I open my heart to him. It’s that simple.
  7. My love and affections need to be earned. I’m completely done with BS behaviors and slack attempts to earn me — that ends now. I’m not going to sacrifice my heart into the trenches ever again unless a guy really steps up to the plate to show me why he isn’t like all the rest. If he really wants to be the guy next to me in my life, he’s going to need to earn it in a real and big way. I won’t settle for mediocre anymore.
  8. I’m pickier for good reasons. Having my heart broken so many times has been both challenging and a blessing in disguise. It’s because of how many times I’ve been screwed over that I’ve become pickier in what I want and what I’ll accept — I have every right to be. I’m not picky because I feel entitled, I’m pickier now because my experiences have taught me that I deserve more than to be treated like crap.
  9. I’m worth protecting. At the end of the day, all I have is myself and my own accountability. I’ve been hurt before plenty of times, but part of me knows that I am responsible for allowing myself to get treated like less than I deserve. I’m going to protect myself not only because I’m sick of having my heart broken time and time again, but also because I’m amazing and I know I’m worth protecting. I deserve more from love and in order to find it, I’m going to make my love harder to get.
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