After dating and being in several long-term relationships that just didn’t end up working out, I sort of lost hope. I’ve played the field, dated so many different types of guys and I still feel like I have no idea what the hell I’m doing. I always thought I’d get it right after a few times, but now I’m not so sure.
- I’ve given so much of myself to someone else already. The fact is that I’ve already given such a special part of me to someone else — it’s hard to believe I could provide the same to another person. I feel almost worn out.
- I thought I knew what love is. Now I’m not so sure. I thought I had the right idea and knew what it meant to truly care about someone and be fully committed to them. Obviously, I was wrong. Now it’s like I’m back to the drawing board but I’m drawing a blank.
- I have such high expectations. I feel like they’re irrational sometimes. I’ve developed a self-confidence that allows me to be picky and never settle for less, but I feel like I might have set the bar TOO high. It’s hard because I’m trying to find love while protecting myself at the same time.
- I’ve been so hurt in past relationships. The amount of pain I’ve been through in my relationships is the kind that never really goes away. I know pain demands to be felt, but it changes you as a lover whether you want it to or not.
- I’ve become more cynical over the years. Unfortunately, my once overly-trusting self has become skeptical as hell. I’m not the warm and trusting person I used to be because my experiences have damaged my ability to be as open.
- I have a hard time following my own advice. For someone who has great relationship advice for my friends, I just can’t seem to follow it myself. If I can’t take a dose of my own medicine, how can I expect to find love?
- I’m afraid of being cheated on. For reasons beyond my control, I fear not being good enough. I’ve seen way too much and felt so much pain caused by unfaithful guys that I just don’t know if anyone is truly loyal. I don’t thnk I can go through that again.
- I don’t know if I believe that long-term, sustainable relationships exist. I used to believe in a love that lasts forever, now I think might be a total lie. I rarely witness couples who make it all the way and I never want to be one of those couples that don’t make it.
- I feel like I’ll never find someone good enough. I’m just afraid that I’ll reach a point in my life where I can’t find someone who suits me, no matter where I look. I don’t want to miss out on someone great because I failed to see what’s in front of me.
- I feel like I’ll never be good enough for someone else. Alternatively, I’m scared of not being a person that someone else wants forever. I know I’m a catch, but it’s hard when things have never worked out with someone else.
- I’m worried, but I still have faith. I’m worried the love I’ve always wanted just doesn’t exist. I’m worried I don’t have the heart I once did, but I still have faith. Regardless of how I feel now, I’m hoping someone will come along and change my mind.
