I found a guy that listens to me, compromises with me, and makes me laugh. If for some reason I lost the amazing relationship I’m in, I wouldn’t date again—here’s why.
- It’s all just too much work. I mean, come on! Dating means you have to shave your legs every day, put on cute underwear, reign in your inner bitch, and wash your hair (more than once a week). Right now, I live on dry shampoo and my legs are hairy AF. And guess what? My boyfriend still wants to have sex with me. Why would I want to start all over and convince a new human that I do indeed look like my Tinder profile pic? (Yes, that’s me—I’m just wearing makeup!)
- Dating makes me obsessive. When I was single, all I could think about was finding the right guy. All I wanted to do was go on dates and I would obsessive over each one. All of this obsessing left little room for other things like work, hobbies, and time with friends. When I’m settled, I do much better at work and I focus myself on my goals. If I become single again, I don’t think I want to spend my precious minutes on this earth obsessing over men. I just want to focus on the things that I know make me happy. Like my cats. Or wine.
- I make bad decisions when I’m single. Have another drink at the sexy tattooed guy’s apartment? Absolutely! Go to a party with a dude I just met? Sure! Take a cab an hour away to meet a hot guy with no driver’s license? Why not? Nope. Single me should not make decisions. Should there ever be a single me again, men will just not be a part of my life. Boom—no more bad decisions to make!
- I don’t like sex with someone new. I know some people will disagree with this one, and I know there are a lot of people that can totally have one-night stands and be just fine with it. Personally, I enjoy sex more when I’m in love and I feel emotionally close with the person. Building emotional closeness takes time—too much time. Also, I don’t want an STD. So there’s that.
- My texting game is weak. At the beginning of a new relationship, you’re usually doing a lot of texting. I suck at texting. I always text back too quickly or not quickly enough. I write awkward things that sound funny in my head but come across weird via text. A lot of times I come across as too forward. I just don’t feel like texting conveys the real me and I almost always scare the guy away.
- I end up basing my worth on how someone else feels. When I feel like a date went great or there was good chemistry, I get really disappointed if I don’t hear from him. Then I start wondering what’s wrong with me or why he doesn’t like me. Logically, it’s just not a good match, but I always try to figure out what he didn’t like about me and wonder if its something I can change. This ultimately leads to me basing my worth on someone else’s opinion, and I hate feeling this way.
- There’s nothing in life I can’t do without a man. Women can have babies, manage their household, and work full time all without a man. I don’t need to have someone in my life in order to accomplish everything I want to. I can accomplish all my goals without a guy: getting my PhD, owning my own home, adopting more dogs, drinking my weight in wine… Did I mention adopting more dogs?
- I don’t think I would ever get over him. I can admit that I can’t see myself with anyone else. I truly don’t believe that anyone could be as good of a fit for me than my current partner. He’s the perfect guy for me and it took us a long time to build this amazing relationship. If I could move on, it would probably take me my entire lifetime.
