Incredible Women Don’t Settle For Average Men — You Deserve Better

You’re an amazing woman and yet somehow, you find yourself settling for mediocre men time and time again. In fact, you probably have one in your life right now. No more, though — it’s time to realize you deserve better.

  1. Drop thinking you can change him; use that energy to get the hell out. Please stop thinking that your average loverboy is going to change or that you’ll be able to change him. It doesn’t matter how amazing you are — you’re never going to make him someone he’s not. He’s still going to be a tool no matter how much you try, s0 quit wasting your energy and instead use it to get the heck out of there.
  2. The anxiety-ridden thought that you can’t do better is lying to you! There are little voices in the back of your head whispering to you that you can never do better than the dude you’re with right now. They’re lying, I promise. The biggest thing holding you back from finding a guy worth your time is still holding onto the one who isn’t worth your time.
  3. Quit downplaying his BS. He’s emotionally unavailable, regularly late, and you’re not even sure that he’s loyal to you. You need to stop making excuses for him! His behavior is not normal or justifiable, so stop with the rationalizations. He doesn’t deserve them. And you, my dear, deserve peace of mind!
  4. Fear of what other people are going to think is irrelevant next to your happiness. Maybe one of the reasons you haven’t broken up with your partner yet, despite knowing you’re too good for him, is because you’re worried about what others think. Your parents love him and your friends think he’s hot, so you’re afraid to let him go. None of their opinions matter! I know it’s hard to let go of what other people think, but ultimately your happiness is what matters most.
  5. You get to take back all of those sacrifices you’re making. Maybe you stopped seeing your friends so much so that you and your loser guy would have time together. You’ve neglected your apartment because you spent a ton of time at his. You probably haven’t been to the gym in months and you certainly haven’t done your favorite hobby. Guess what? Dumping his butt means you get a bunch of time back to do you! Paint those pictures, jump on the treadmill, and hangout with your gals.
  6. You can let go of all the resentment and dissatisfaction. You’ve got oodles of pent up feelings about this jerk you call a boyfriend. You’re mad at him, you hate him, and you also pity him. Take this dissatisfaction and blow off some proper steam by deleting him from your phone and your life. Go out with the girls and enjoy your newfound singledom! He doesn’t even deserve to take up any space in your mind.
  7. You get to work on you, which is the ultimate self-love gift. When you stop settling for that average guy, a huge space opens up in your life. All of a sudden, you have a bunch of time because you aren’t wasting it with him! With that time, you can turn your attention towards self-improvement. You can join a new recreational sports team, pick up a new hobby, play board games with the girls, or get a therapist. The world is your oyster.
  8. Don’t fall into the trap of being afraid of loneliness. A big fear that keeps incredible women stuck with men who aren’t worth their time is the fear of being alone. Don’t worry, it’s much better to push through the fear of being alone than it is to waste time with someone who isn’t good enough for you. Worst case scenario, as Marilyn Monroe said, “It’s far better to be unhappy alone than unhappy with someone.” But, I’m willing to bet that if you give yourself a chance at something better, being alone won’t be so bad after all.
  9. Stop comparing your relationship to others. Comparison is the thief of joy. If you’re comparing yourself to people whose relationships you think you’re better than, you may be fooling yourself. If you compare yourself to those you feel worse than, you’re leaving yourself feeling self-pity. Do yourself a favor; take an honest look at your relationship without the comparison. If you’re willing to be truthful with yourself, you’ll see that you deserve so much better and you can leave that guy in the dust.
  10. You deserve someone who treats you like the queen you are. At the end of the day, you are an amazing woman. You are lovely, beautiful, intelligent, and kind. You deserve a partner who will treat you like the princess that you are. You should have a man who showers you with love, shows up for you on your good and bad days, and who reminds you how amazing you are every single day. You aren’t going to have this if you’re wasting time with Mr. wrong! Leave him behind so you can open up space for your prince.
Ginelle has been writing professionally for more than six years and has a bachelor’s degree in digital marketing & design. Her writing has appeared on Birdie, Thought Catalog, Tiny Buddha and more. You can follow her on Instagram @ginelletesta, via her Facebook page, or through her website at