Why Independent Women Are the Most Desirable Women

We all recognize the type of women who hang off their boyfriends, always tagging along for every random dinner, night out, guy’s camping weekend, and trips to the corner store. People talk about that girl behind her back, wondering if she has her own life, and if she’s actually contemplating surgery to keep her permanently attached to her guy’s hip. Most guys have either attempted to date a girl like this, or watched as one of their buddies had to deal with it. That’s why, when an actual independent woman with her own friends, job, hobbies, and life comes along, guys are at once fascinated and attracted. That kind of woman does exist! And they all want her.

  1. She can hold her own at a party. Even if she doesn’t know anyone, she doesn’t need to be babied the entire time. She’s perfectly capable of making conversation with new people and finding something to do on her own.
  2. She has stories to tell. If she wants to do something, she does it. She doesn’t wait around for other people to be on the same page as her, so even when none of her friends wanted to take an improv class with her, she signed up anyway.
  3. She can hold a conversation. She probably has a full work and social life, which makes it a lot easier for her to have things to talk about with people. She’s always doing new things, and she’s good at connecting with people on even the most unexpected levels.
  4. She isn’t looking for a guy to support her. She would never even dream of quitting her job after getting married, because the thought of not contributing any income – or worse, not having her own career and purpose – makes her shudder in horror.
  5. She doesn’t obsess over little things. She doesn’t need to spend any time or energy on things like little fights that don’t matter. She has bigger things to worry about, and she’s pretty good at staying out of dramatic situations.
  6. She’s never needy. She isn’t needy because she doesn’t need anyone. She knows the difference between wanting someone around and needing them, and she’s perfectly capable of taking care of her own needs, thanks.
  7. She has her own goals. You won’t find her making anyone else’s success her priority, because she has her own list of things she wants to accomplish. She doesn’t really do the whole ‘compromising her career for a relationship’ thing, because she’d rather be alone and happy than coupled up and bitter.
  8. She doesn’t need a guy to complete her. Some women think they’re only one half of a whole, and they’re constantly on the lookout for the one guy who will complete them. But independent women know they have to be comfortable with themselves before they can make a real relationship work.
  9. She has her own friends to do things with. She won’t be asking her boyfriend to go see Fifty Shades of Grey with her, because she has friends for that. She also would never dream of tagging along on guys’ night.
  10. She actually enjoys time alone. Even if she has no plans one night, she isn’t going to insist on having a guy to entertain her. She will find something to do among her many hobbies and interests, or just enjoy a glass of wine alone in front of Netflix. And she’s perfectly content.
By day, Courtney is a digital marketing copywriter living in Toronto, Canada. By night, she's a freelance lifestyle writer who, in addition to Bolde.com, contributes regularly to AmongMen.ca, IN Magazine, and SheBlogs Canada. Want to chat about relationships, Stephen King or your favorite true crime podcast/documentary/book? She's on Twitter @courtooo.