If I Intimidate You, You’re Not A Strong Enough Man For Me

It gets really tiring hearing that the reason I’m single is that I’m “intimidating” to guys. I quite literally couldn’t care less about guys who find my ambition and strength too intimidating to consider dating. It’s pretty simple — if I intimidate you, that’s your problem to deal with — it has nothing to do with me. You’re just clearly not a strong enough man for me to begin with.

  1. I won’t apologize for having ambition. I shouldn’t have to feel bad for the fact that I go after the things that I want out of life with determination and strength. In fact, I truly believe that the way that I boss my own life is going to make me an amazing girlfriend to the guy who has the balls to step up to the plate to be with me. I’d rather be a woman who has everything going for her than one who needs a guy to help me with things I should be capable of doing on my own.
  2. My strong voice isn’t intimidating — you’re just weak AF. I’m done apologizing to guys for coming across brazen or aggressive about who I am, what I think/feel, and what I want out of life. I’m anything but cookie cutter and I pride myself on the unique qualities that separate me from the majority. I’m allowed to have a voice. I’m allowed to have opinions and I’m allowed to tell it like it is — deal with it.
  3. I’m not looking for a boy — I’m looking for a man. I’m not everyone’s cup of tea and that’s perfectly fine by me because I’m not looking for an ordinary guy who thinks he can walk all over me and get away with treating me with less than complete respect. I really do feel like a lot of guys get an immediate sense that I’m a woman who doesn’t take crap and would easily call him out on their bad behavior. They seem to be put off because they know they can’t get away with being a douche with me. If that’s the vibe you feel then stay the away from me. It takes a certain kind of guy to date me and he won’t be intimidated in the slightest — he needs to be a grown man who knows how to treat women.
  4. This excuse is getting tiring. The fact that I have my crap together and assert myself proudly and confidently in life shouldn’t be a reason that I’m too intimidating to date — get to know me first. I may be commanding my life in so many ways, but it doesn’t mean that I’m not a huge goofball who has low-key parts to my life as well. Like they always say, don’t judge a book by its cover.
  5. Strong women are a luxury to grown men. The type of guy I’m looking for is one who looks at a woman like myself and is awestruck at how I’m true to myself and I don’t care what people think about me or how society labels me. I’m not intimidating, you’re just weaker than me and intimidating is the word you use as your scapegoat.
  6. I’m not trying to please the masses — I’m simply being myself. I’m the type of woman who grew up with the logic that if I wanted things in life, I needed to earn them myself, so that’s what I did. I built my career from the ground up, I secured a home for myself and I took up interests to develop my character and grow as a person — isn’t that how life works? Why are guys always saying that women who are doing amazing things are intimidating?
  7. There’s nothing wrong with a woman who holds her own. I can stand on my own two feet and stand up for myself and what I believe in without sacrificing amazing girlfriend qualities. The fact is that if you can’t rise up high enough to meet me at my level, you’re not the guy I’m looking for to begin with. I want someone who is strong enough to look at me and know that I’m worth pursuing, not only because he took the time to know who I was aside from the initial intimidation, but because he knows having a woman who he doesn’t need to coddle and take care of is an asset to his life.
  8. There’s more to me than your initial opinion. I may come across as intimidating to some, but I don’t have the time to try and prove you otherwise. I’m proud of who I am and there’s more to me than being a well-rounded and strong woman who goes after what I want. If you’re unwilling to get to know me further, chances are I wouldn’t want to know someone so narrow-minded in the first place.
  9. If you can’t rise to the challenge, don’t bother wasting my time. It’s pretty simple — from now on, if you think I’m intimidating, stop right there. Do not pass go. Do not collect $200. Quite simply, don’t waste my time. I’m not intimidating — you’re just not strong enough for me.