Why Introverts Make The Best Lovers

Why Introverts Make The Best Lovers ©iStock/filadendron

Just because we’re quiet or shy doesn’t make us boring. We might prefer staying in with a good book versus going out with a group, but that works to your advantage in the bedroom — extroverts just don’t have the same kind of patience or insight to ever compare. Date us once and you’ll quickly see introverts make the best lovers.

  1. We won’t brag about it later. Introverts keep our personal lives personal. We know we slept with you, but we don’t see the need to brag about it. What happens stays between us. Wouldn’t it be nice to sleep with someone who doesn’t share it with all our friends as soon as you’re done?
  2. We don’t just have sex, we make love. Forget hookups and hookup buddies — introverts are into making love. We prefer sex that has a deeper meaning than just physical. That doesn’t mean we have to be in love, but if we’re having sex, it’s going to be worth your while and ours.
  3. We prefer a not-so-quiet night in. Who said staying in was a bad thing? We could go out, sure, or you could stay at home, forget all the game playing that substitutes as the world’s worst foreplay and just focus on each other. Don’t mistake our quiet demeanor — we’ll make you moan and scream for more.
  4. We’re patient and longer lasting. There’s no denying that extroverts seem more exciting, but we’re not always patient when it comes to sex. All that excitement leads to a premature ending. Male or female, sex lasts longer with a patient lover. We want to please you, not just ourselves.
  5. We want to know what you want. You don’t have to be with an introvert for years before we figure out what you like and don’t like. We’re interested from the first moment you’re together. We’ll ask what you like, pay attention to how you move and do what we can to make it your best sex ever.
  6. We’re naturally curious. Introverts know that everyone’s different. We’re not going to just stick with a few key moves — we’ll take the time to explore your body to see what gets you off and what doesn’t. Look forward to a torturous build-up and multiple orgasms as we explore to our heart’s content.
  7. We’re sensitive to your foreplay needs. Foreplay isn’t optional and introverts never leave it out. We want to make you happy, meaning longer lasting foreplay. We’ll give as good as we get, so don’t worry about a selfish lover here.
  8. We make you feel more comfortable. Most everyone is nervous the first time we’re with a new partner, at least if no alcohol’s involved. Introverts completely understand. After all, we’re far more sensitive to those feelings than extroverts. We’ll do whatever we can to make you and them feel less nervous.
  9. We’re experts at setting the mood. In making sure you’re comfortable and fully in the mood, we take the time to set the mood, including music, dinner and conversation. Odds are, introverts probably wait a few dates before having sex so we know you a little better first.
  10. We’re ready to try things you’ve never heard of. Tired of the same positions and maneuvers? Extroverts tend to be a little cocky and stick to what we think works. We don’t all like the same things though. Introverts make the best lovers because we’re always looking for new positions and moves to spice things up.
  11. We take feedback well. You might think introverts would shrink from feedback, but we honestly do want to improve and make the sex amazing. We know this means talking during and afterwards to get it just right. Give them guidance and we’ll happily try what you ask.
  12. We love cuddling afterwards. If only for this reason alone, introverts make the best lovers. we’re not known for loving social situations, but we do love one on one time. One of the best parts of sex is curling up together afterwards as you come down from orgasmic highs. Forget the f*ck and duck. You get amazing, sensual sex and relaxing cuddles when you give the introvert a chance.
Crystal Crowder is a freelance writer and blogger. She's a tech geek at heart, but loves telling it like it is when it comes to love, beauty and style. She's enjoys writing music, poetry and fiction and curling up with a great book. You can find her on Twitter @ccrowderwrites or check out her other writing on Medium.