Is He Bored Of You? Here Are 9 Signs

All relationships get a little monotonous after awhile. It’s important for both of you to try and continue keeping things fresh. If you get too comfortable, you may end up jeopardizing the relationship. Here are a few signs that it might already be too late to spice things up.

  1. When you’re together, he just stares at his phone. Technology is both awesome and terrible. It’s great for keeping us connected, but it’s constantly distracting. All of us are guilty of scrolling Instagram while our partners are speaking, but if you literally can’t remember the last time he made eye contact with you, he’s just bored by you and the conversation. If he’s looking at profiles of other girls, consider your relationship doomed.
  2. He didn’t even notice the last time you dressed up. This might not be his fault. Look at your dress—was it plain black or something you’ve had in the closet for the last five years? When we get too comfortable in relationships, we play it safe. It’s always important to value comfort, but if you really want to wow him and show him you’re still putting an effort into looking super hot, consider something that you feel confident in but that really dazzles. It’s good for your self-esteem as well.
  3. Date night is missing from your calendar. The last few times you went out, you just went to a chain restaurant. It was a little bland, sure, but at least you left the house. Since then, you’ve ordered out and just ate dinner together in your living room in front of the television. Those nights are good on occasion but they’re also really boring. Why not inspire him to go someplace completely different?
  4. He just assumes you wouldn’t be into things. He has ideas of things he wants to do like hikes and road trips, but he doesn’t even ask you since he assumes you’ll say no. If you’ve been a little negative towards his ideas, ask yourself why. Have your interests changed or have you just gotten used to being a hermit? If it’s the latter, force yourself to have an experience and prove to your guy that you’re not boring.
  5. He’s suddenly active on dating sites again. He will literally give you every excuse in the book if you catch on, but the truth is that he’s really bored of you and wants to see what else is out there. He might not be cheating but it may not be that far off. If you think you’ve been giving your relationship your all, just cut him loose now because this won’t end well.
  6. He’s invested in your salon appointments. You’ve had the same boring haircut for the last five years. It works for you, but your guy is getting tired of it. Even though you’re in charge of how you look and what you do with your body, his sudden interest might mean he’s pushing you to embrace a radical change.
  7. He’s out of the house more with his friends. Sorry, you’re not invited. It’s totally normal for your guy to have nights without you, but if they’re a weekly event, just know he’s probably acting like a single guy while he’s out. It’d be ridiculous to think that his Saturday outings, which last until 2 am, don’t include a little flirting.
  8. Your sex life has decreased. Sex is an important part of most relationships. It’s a way to feel a great physical connection and also test your adventurous sides. If sex has been vanilla and decreasing in frequency, it’s possible he’s really grown tired of you and the relationship. If it’s worth holding onto, maybe try spicing things up. But if not, do yourself a favor and find new partners you’re much more compatible with.
  9. You’ve had a ton of dumb fights recently. It seems like he’s been mad about absolutely everything, and this is for two reasons. One, your fights at least drum up a little bit of action in your relationship. And two, he’s hoping to create an excuse for you to break up with him. He probably thinks you’re a nice person and doesn’t want to hurt your feelings, so it’s a way to end things without any guilt. No matter what, telling someone that it’s not going to work because of boredom is bound to sting a little.
Karen Belz is a New Jersey native who is currently living in Maryland. She has a Bachelor’s Degree in Speech Communication with a focus in Broadcasting and Print Media Studies from Millersville University of Pennsylvania. Since graduating, she has written for sites like LittleThings, HelloGiggles, and Scary Mommy and is currently an e-commerce editor at Bustle.

When she's not writing, she enjoys making her phone run out of memory after taking too many photos of her dog. You can find her on Twitter @karenebelz or on Instagram @karenbelz.