Is He Really The One? 10 Signs You Don’t Actually Belong Together

Has there ever been a guy that really likes you, but you just don’t feel the same way? Have you then considered the option, so you go for it just to see what happens? The thing is, it’s never a good idea to lead someone on. In the end, the other person always gets hurt and then you just end up looking like an loser. If you’ve been single for a while, you may sometimes get desperate and try to force yourself into liking someone just for the sake of having someone around. Unfortunately, this typically doesn’t work out for either parties. If you find yourself contemplating whether you’re actually into a guy or not, here are ten ways to be sure:

  1. You don’t have a lot to talk to him about. Communication is one of the key indicators for any healthy relationship, whether it be a friendship or a love interest. A lack of communication is a recipe for disaster and small talk can only take you so far.
  2. You don’t think about him when he’s not around. When you really like someone, he’ll be on your mind quite often. You’d catch yourself daydreaming about him or checking your phone to see if he called or texted, and when you’re not with him, you want to be. If he’s not on your mind, you clearly don’t like him that much.
  3. You don’t look forward to seeing him. Keeping the excitement alive in a relationship is tough, but it should at least be there from the beginning. If you regularly dread the plans you make with him, don’t waste anymore of your time or his. You should be with someone that you actually look forward to seeing, and you should be happy when you do.
  4. He doesn’t give you the butterflies. Carrie Bradshaw from Sex and the City once said, “Never settle for anything less than butterflies.” Well, it’s true. Remember your first crush? Remember those butterflies you felt when you found out that he liked you back? It may seem juvenile, but there should be some sense of giddiness that comes with liking someone. If it’s not there, then move on.
  5. You’re not physically attracted to him. When he tries to hold your hand or show any affection, your body automatically cringes and naturally reacts in an un-welcoming way. Actions speak louder than words. If your body is physically restraining yourself from touching him, then he’s not the one for you.
  6. You don’t tell your friends or family about him. If your friends or family ask if you’re dating anyone new and your initial response is, “Not really,” then you’re not really into him, plain and simple. One of the first things we typically do when we start talking to a new guy that we really like is tell our closest friends or maybe our siblings about him. If you don’t deem him important, you won’t tell anyone about him because you know it’s not going anywhere, anyway.
  7. You still have a wandering eye. When you really like someone, you’re not thinking of other guys. You’re not even looking at them when they pass by – you only have eyes for that one person. However, if you’re still collecting numbers at the bar or casually texting former hookups, then you don’t really like this guy.
  8. You’d rather hang out with your friends. If you’re not making time for him, then he’s obviously not a priority in your life. You shouldn’t be double-booking plans with him and your friends, looking at the clock to make sure you catch that 8pm movie with your friends while you’re still at dinner with him.
  9. You don’t see any potential for a future. The way our brains operate when we first start talking to a guy is that we paint some sort of tiny imaginary picture of whether we see ourselves including him in other areas of our life. We may test him out to see if our friends like him or see how he acts in certain public settings. If we see no potential for a possible future, then he’s a complete waste of time.
  10. You’re not yourself when you’re with him. One immediate way to tell that you don’t like him is the fact that you don’t feel comfortable being yourself when you’re with him. You should be with someone who you can be yourself around. Never hide who you are. The right person will eventually come around and they will love everything about you.
Lindsey is a Digital Advertising Professional and Freelance Writer based in New York City. In her spare time, she enjoys running, traveling, and drinking ridiculous amounts of coffee. Follow her on Twitter @lindseyruns