Is My Relationship Over? Signs Things Are Coming To An End

Chances are, you entered into your relationship with every intention of making it last long-term. You were head over heels for your partner and thought they might just be the one for you. However, lately it seems like everything that could go wrong between you has and you’re starting to wonder if your relationship is over. Look for these signs—if you relate to any of these, it might be time to say goodbye.

  1. You’re no longer on the same page about the future. You used to want the same things for the future, whether that pertained to careers, kids, or where you’d live. However, now it seems like you couldn’t be further away from one another when it comes to how you envision your life five, 10, or even 20 years down the road.
  2. There’s a serious lack of trust. This is perhaps one of the biggest signs your relationship is over. You already know that a relationship can’t survive, let alone thrive without trust. If you constantly wonder what they’re up to when you’re not around or they regularly give you the third degree about what you’re doing or who you’re talking to, you don’t belong together. Unless there’s been a serious betrayal in the relationship, there’s no reason you shouldn’t trust one another.
  3. You don’t even recognize them anymore. You used to feel like you knew your partner inside out but these days it’s like you’re with a stranger. All the things you used to think you knew about them just don’t exist anymore and you realize that if you’d met them in their present incarnation, you never would have fallen for them. It’s a bleak and depressing realization.
  4. You no longer consider them when making decisions. If you find yourself considering moving away or taking a job offer without even considering consulting your partner about it, this is another one of those terrible signs your relationship is over. After all, your partner is supposed to be your teammate, so if you’re not talking to each other about major life decisions, there’s clearly an issue.
  5. You fantasize about what it would be like to be with someone else. We’re all guilty of having celebrity crushes or even of noticing when there’s something attractive around, but actively fantasizing about having sex with someone you know or even being in a proper relationship with them instead of your current partner, you clearly don’t want to be with them anymore. Do yourself and your partner a favor and end it sooner rather than later.
  6. You’re just not having fun anymore. It should go without saying that relationships aren’t fun 24/7. Life happens, and so does stress, heartache, disappointment, and many other not-so-fun feelings. However, if the overall vibe of your relationship is miserable rather than something that brings you levity and joy, consider this one of the signs that your things are over.
  7. They’re no longer the first person you go to with news. Instead of telling your partner about your mom getting sick or you getting a promotion at work, you go to your best friend, your sister, or even one of your other colleagues. If you’ve lost the drive to share big news with your partner, why are they your partner?
  8. Your sex life is nonexistent and you don’t actually care. You can’t remember the last time the two of you had sex, but that’s not even the bad part. The bad part is that you don’t even care that you’re not intimate in that way anymore. Your partner doesn’t turn you on and you’re never in the mood when you’re together, so it’s just as well that it doesn’t happen.
  9. You rarely spend time together anymore. While it’s important to have your own life even when you’re part of a couple, there’s a difference between maintaining your individuality and living entirely separate lives that barely cross over. One of the signs your relationship has run its course is when they’re such a small part of your life that they might as well not be in it. It’s time to face the fact that it’s over.
  10. You fight over absolutely nothing. If you bicker and end up in screaming matches over the tiniest of things, you’ve clearly lost your patience with one another and no longer care about staying on good terms with your partner. You might as well call it quits here.
Bolde has been a source of dating and relationship advice for single women around the world since 2014. We combine scientific data, experiential wisdom, and personal anecdotes to provide help and encouragement to those frustrated by the journey to find love. Follow us on Instagram @bolde_media or on Facebook @BoldeMedia