“I’m so lucky that I’m dating my best friend.” We’ve all heard this line, and it seems like something people say to prove that their relationship is the real deal. But how do you know if it’s actually true or if you’re just saying it?
- You’re extremely comfortable with each other. You don’t have to look your best physically the whole time when you’re around your partner. You can take off your makeup and put on sweatpants. You might even be a little too comfortable around each other. You can fart or go to the bathroom in front of one another, for example, and you’re not embarrassed doing these things because you know your partner cares about you regardless.
- You never have to fake it. You can always be yourself around your person no matter what. You guys don’t have to put on a happy face to avoid upsetting each other because you’re there for each other no matter what, as best friends should be. You can vent about things and be honest about your true feelings without fear of judgment.
- Your partner embraces all of you, especially your flaws. You accept all of each other’s qualities, even the bad ones. Your partner doesn’t mind if you can’t cook or if you’re always running late. You also accept each other’s physical flaws because you care more about what’s on the inside. You’re together because you connect on all levels, including on a friendship level.
- Your significant other is the first person you want to tell when something happens. Your partner is the first person you call when your car breaks down or when your grandmother dies. But this person is also the first one you want to tell when you get promoted at work or when you’ve finally managed to potty train your new puppy.
- You’re there for each other during good and bad times. Your partner sticks around when your life is great and when it’s not going so well. When you land your dream job, your significant other is there to celebrate with you. When tragedy strikes in your life, your partner doesn’t run away and is there to console you and support you no matter what.
- You always want your partner’s input and approval. When you’re making decisions, you go to each other for advice and you trust each other’s judgment before anyone else’s. You help guide one another because you feel like you’re a team.
- You know what the other person is feeling even if no words are spoken. Your partner can read what you’re thinking before you have to say anything. They know when you’re not telling the whole truth because they can see right through you. You know each other so well and you genuinely care about each other’s feelings. That’s what best friends are for.
- You know each other’s preferences really well. You feel like you know your partner better than anyone. You know what to order the other person at a restaurant for instance. You also know exactly what your partner would want to do in any given situation. For example, you can tell based on the person’s mood whether it’s a party kind of night or a stay at home and watch a movie kind of night. A best friend just knows.
- You never get bored being around the other person. You can have deep conversations with your partner, but you can also be happy simply sitting next to them and not saying anything. You enjoy doing things together more than you enjoy doing things with anyone else. You love experiencing things together and having things to bond over and talk about.
- You can talk about literally anything. You can be honest about your opinions, especially negative ones, without fear of what the other person thinks. Your partner wants you to be happy and values your feelings like a good friend should. You can also talk about “gross” things like periods, indigestion, or anything else, and your partner doesn’t think any less of you for it.
- You have rituals that you only do together. You always cuddle and watch movies on a certain night of the week, or maybe you never try a new restaurant without one another because you feel like you’d be leaving each other out. Certain things are sacred to your relationship.
- You have inside jokes. No one understands the way you two are together, and sometimes you feel like you’re in your own little world. No one gets you quite like your partner does. You’re always on the same wavelength without even trying.
- You’re not afraid to disagree. You don’t hesitate to tell the other person when something is bothering you because you know you won’t break up because of a fight. We all argue with our platonic friends at some point, so we should be able to do that with our partners if they’re our good friends too. If you’ve found someone who you can be open with and be yourself around, you’re definitely dating your best friend.
