If This Isn’t Going Anywhere, It Certainly Isn’t Going To Your Bed

You take me to dinner, buy me flowers, and we have a great night together. Then it gets to the moment when we’re getting ready to call it a night. If you’re thinking to yourself, “I did everything right, she’s definitely going to let me in her bedroom,” think again! After one date, you haven’t proven yourself enough to get to see this girl’s lingerie. If this thing between us isn’t going anywhere, it’s definitely not going to your bed (or mine).

  1. Been There, Done That. I’ve had my fair share of one-night stands, drunken hook-ups, and sneaking out in the middle of the night to do the walk of shame back home. I’ve had my fun and now I’m looking to move forward with someone seriously. I’m not just looking for the next booty call anymore, I actually want something real. If you’re looking for another notch on your bedpost, look elsewhere.
  2. I Want What My Parents Have. My parents have been married for 30+ years and they’re still the cutest couple I know. They have a love that people dream about, and while my dad didn’t wait until he was married and that’s fine, my mom has only been with my dad amd there’s something very romantic about that. While I definitely didn’t wait either, I want to know that if I’m letting you in my bed or I’m getting into yours that you’re actually in this for more than sex.
  3. I’m Just Now Learning to Open Up Emotionally. It’s been a long road for me to learn how to open up to people, men in particular. I was the girl who masked my inability to be vulnerable by just being physical. After all, if we’re “getting it on,” we can’t talk about personal stuff, right? However, I’ve grown up a lot and now I’m at that point in my life where if I want to be with you, I also want you to be able to handle everything I’ve been through. I want to have the emotional side too, not just physicality.
  4. I’m Done With BS. ISome days I feel like guys will literally say anything to get into a girl’s pants. It’s like a game for them to see what crazy tactic or line they can use and then see if it works. Well, I can tell you right now that I’ve heard it all, so please go try your cheesy lines on someone who can’t spot a player.
  5. I’m Not a Fling. If I’m going on dates with you then I actually like you. I’m not the girl that keeps dating just for the sake of dating. I know what I want in a relationship and I’m not afraid to voice that, so if I’m continuing to see you, I’m hoping this is going somewhere and I’m hoping you want that too. I need to make sure that after we sleep together, you aren’t just going to take off because you finally got what you wanted from me.
  6. I’m Also Not a Rebound! This is a big one. Guys, if you’re looking for a chick to hook up with because you’re lonely after getting dumped, please just be honest to the girl you’re talking to. You may not get laid, but at least if a girl sleeps with you, she knows what she’s getting into. No one likes being a rebound, especially if they started to get feelings for you. No one’s ever going to be happy that they were only there to help you get over someone else.
  7. I’m Worth The Wait. I don’t want sex to be the only thing you enjoy from me. In my experience, sex with someone you actually care about is way better than just the casual one-night stand. I’m not saying we’re going “to make love” — it can still be wild and kinky sex, but by that point, we both know more about each other. I know things you like and vice versa and we’re way more comfortable with one another. It’s less intimidating and much more special when there’s already a connection there.
  8. I Want You to Chase Me. I won’t lie — I’m much more into a guy when he acts mysterious or doesn’t just give in to what I want him to do. Therefore, I’m not just going to give into what you want me to do either. I’m going to make you work for it because I want you to earn it. I want to know that when I tell you no, you aren’t going to go find someone easier. If you work for it and finally get it, you enjoy it more, right?
  9. I Value Myself. Let me be clear — I’m not saying that if you sleep with a guy on the first date that you don’t value yourself! This is strictly a personal thing. I’ve been through a lot in my life and I’m now finally done just sleeping with guys because I’m insecure and I think that’ll make them like me more  I know who I am and I know what I want. If you want in my pants then you’ll respect that.
  10. I Want Love, Not Lust. After 27 years of having fun, I’m ready to settle down. I’m ready to find a guy I trust being with and can see something real with. I don’t want a casual dater, I want a man, and a man will understand my waiting to sleep with him.
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