It’s OK To Make Finding Love A Priority

You don’t need a boyfriend in order to be happy, but there’s nothing wrong with wanting one. It might seem like the dating world is all one-night stands and Netflix and chill, but having a steady relationship doesn’t have to be out of the question.

1. Relationships aren’t overrated.Skeptics will try to trick you into believing that holding hands, kissing on ferris wheels, and devoting your life to one other aren’t all they’re cracked up to be. However, when you find the right person to share those experiences with, they won’t let you down. They’ll be just as special as you’ve always imagined.
2. Marriage is like any other goal.When a woman admits that she wants to become a teacher, she’s commended, but if she wants to become a wife, eyebrows are raised. That’s BS. You’re allowed to daydream about having a husband and a household full of babies.
3. You can focus on multiple things at once.If a friend tells you that there are more important things to worry about than finding a boyfriend, it’s the truth. Of course, it’s entirely possible to focus on getting a promotion and finding a boyfriend at the same time. They’re not mutually exclusive.
4. Crushes aren’t childish.Sure, they might give you butterflies and encourage you to use emojis, but that doesn’t mean they’re reserved for middle school girls. There are women of all ages that daydream about finding a boyfriend, so you’re certainly not alone.
5. What you really want is a friend.Unless you’re looking for a sugar daddy to pay off your bills, you want a boyfriend, because you want a lifelong companion. No one is faulted for wanting friends, so why should you feel ashamed about wanting a boyfriend, which is really just a friend you can have sex with?
6. It doesn’t make you weaker or less independent.Wanting a boyfriend doesn’t mean you think men are the center of the universe, or that a woman can’t survive without a husband. It just means that you’re lonely and want someone to watch Netflix with. That’s certainly not a crime.
7. There’s a difference between want and need.You don’t need a man in order to survive — you just want one, which is completely normal. There’s nothing wrong with wishing you had someone to love you unconditionally.
8. You have a sex drive.Even if you don’t daydream about finding someone to marry, your libido is still going to urge you to find someone to sleep with. Don’t be ashamed about what your body is telling you, because it’s natural.
9. You’re taught to want a relationship.Between the lectures your mother gives you about finding a husband and the #RelationshipGoals pictures you see on social media, it’s hard to resist the idea of finding a boyfriend of your own. Most of society urges us to date, even if our fellow millennials don’t.
10. You’re your own person.Your friends might judge you for joining dating sites and chatting to strangers at bars, but do their opinions really matter? It’s your life, so do whatever makes you happy, regardless of the reputation it’ll give you.