It’s Possible To Love Again, No Matter How Badly You’ve Been Hurt

History doesn’t have to repeat itself. If you need help moving on, here are a few things to remember about falling in love:

  1. Your future boyfriends won’t be exactly like your ex.The men you meet in the future aren’t going to be the spitting image of your ex-boyfriend, which means you shouldn’t blame them for the things your ex has done in the past. Whenever you date someone new, you both get a clean slate.
  2. Your past made you smarter.You’ve been hurt in the past, which means you know what red flags to look out for in the future. If you keep your eyes open, then you won’t end up heartbroken again, because you’ll be able to stop history from repeating itself.
  3. Love comes in different forms.Even if you never love another man again, there are plenty of other types of love for you to experience. The emotions you feel for a friend, a pet, or a child can be just as meaningful as romantic love.
  4. Your heart is huge.There’s plenty of room in your heart. Even if you never get over the “one who got away,” it’s still possible to fall in love a second or a third time.
  5. Love is worth it in the end.Think about how happy you were during the good days with your ex. Wasn’t the pain of the breakup worth those few amazing memories?
  6. Time really does help you heal.Right now, it might feel like it would be impossible for you to love again. Of course, after a few years, you’ll find yourself loving like you’ve never been hurt before.
  7. You’re not damaged beyond repair.It doesn’t matter how many times you’ve been hurt before. You’re not damaged goods, which means you’re still capable of being an amazing girlfriend to the right guy.
  8. Every man is different.It’s hard to trust after you’ve been betrayed, but you have to have faith in certain people. Not everyone will hurt you in the same way that your ex did.
  9. Your past made you stronger.Before your ex broke your heart, did you know how strong you were? The experience taught you that you’re capable of putting your life back together and surviving without a man.
  10. You can at least love yourself.If it’s too painful for you to trust another person, then you should at least take the time out to learn to love yourself. You deserve that much.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.
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