These days, breaking up isn’t always the end of the relationship. The on-again, off-again curse is alive and well, making it hard to know whether it’s really over or if you’re just on another temporary hiatus. Sometimes, there’s just no fixing what went wrong and moving on is the only option, even if you can’t see it. If you relate to any of these signs, it’s still over — you’re just in denial.
- He’s moved on to someone new. If he has a new girlfriend, why on earth do you still think there’s a chance? Sure, they might breakup someday, but you deserve better than waiting around in case they don’t work out. You need to stop putting your life on pause for your ex. If he’s moved on, then it’s time for you to do the same.
- You’re obsessively pining for his attention. Repeatedly calling and texting and being repeatedly ignored is a bad sign. You’re addicted to his love and in need of some serious rehab. If he’s ignoring your cries for attention, then it’s pretty clear that he’s no longer interested. You’re so much better than begging for a man to be with you. Let him go, and find someone who will love you just as hard as you love him.
- You still act like you’re his girlfriend. Despite the fact that you’re not together, you continue to talk to him 24/7, drop anything for a chance to hang out with him and will even hook up with him when he’s in the mood. He’s getting all the benefits of being in a relationship with you while still retaining his single status — he’s free to go out and hook up with whoever he wants because you’re not his girlfriend. No matter what he does, he knows you’ll still be there, and that’s seriously screwed up.
- You still haven’t confronted the reasons you actually broke up. Obviously something tore your love story apart, so what happened? What did he do wrong? And what did you? It takes two people to put a relationship together and two people to tear it apart. Something wasn’t working and if you can’t face the reality of what went wrong, then how could you ever believe you could fix it?
- You can’t imagine a life without him. If you’re not together right now, you have to face the reality that you may never be together. Life isn’t a fairytale, and he’s probably not your happily ever after. You can’t put all of your eggs in his basket — you have to look out for yourself. Stop counting on this one guy and be open to the possibility that there may just be someone else out there who’s better for you.
- He’s unfriended, unfollowed and blocked you. If he doesn’t even want you in his virtual life, then he definitely isn’t interested in having you in his personal life. He’s cutting every tie you have to each other, because he’s over and done with that relationship. He’s sending you a message that you’re nothing but an ex and it’s time for you to start listening.
- Even your friends think it’s time you move on. Your friends know you better than anyone else, and they also knew your relationship better. Your girls are the ones you told about every detail of your ex and your former relationship. You’re too close to the situation, but they have an outside view, so if they think you’re better off without him, then take the hint and move on.
- You’ve been apart longer than you were together. He’s obviously closed the door on your relationship, so why are you still trying to keep it open? Some relationships just don’t work out. That’s life. You can’t hold on to the past forever — it’s just not a healthy way to live your life.
