I’ve Learned My Lesson — I Won’t Put Up With These Terrible Behaviors From Guys Anymore

I’ve Learned My Lesson — I Won’t Put Up With These Terrible Behaviors From Guys Anymore ©iStock/shironosov

I may have been a doormat once who put up with guys’ BS, but that was a long time ago. That’s not to say that every guy I met was terrible, but I’ve dealt with my fair share of crappy behavior from immature players and I’m not doing it anymore. I’ve learned my lesson and I refuse to put up with these things ever again:

  1. The ghost who comes back from the dead. Ghosting me for days or even weeks and thinking it’s okay to pop back into my life will earn a guy a big “Screw you!” from me. I don’t have time for some guy who doesn’t have the common courtesy to be in touch within a reasonable time frame if he wants to date me. We’re all busy adults with jobs and responsibilities. If he can’t make an effort and show me some basic respect, he’ll stop getting the time of day from me at all.
  2. Being called crazy when he messed up. I’m sick of being called “crazy” or “psycho” when I call a guy out for his blatant BS. If he says something off color to me or treats me like crap, I’m going to pipe up and tell him how I feel. If he calls me crazy for it, then he’s way too immature to handle a grown woman like me.
  3. Being put on the back burner. I’m not going to play second fiddle to a guy who’s got multiple women in his harem. If I’m dating someone longer than a month, there’d better be no one else in the mix — this crap is just getting ridiculous. We’re not on the Bachelor. I didn’t sign up for this.
  4. Ignoring me completely when there’s an issue I want to talk about. If I have something concerning or something is happening in my life, I’m going to want to talk about it like a grown up with the person I’m dating. Relationships are about supporting one another and being open to hearing and discussing things to ensure we’re bothOK. I refuse to be shoved aside and ignored when my feelings are valid.
  5. Habitually cancelling plans with little remorse. When I make plans for a date, I put genuine thought and effort into it, even if he’s the one taking me out. When he cancels those plans constantly with little to no remorse, it’s not only clear he’s not that into me and he’s just keeping me as an option, it’s also clear as day that I’m wasting my time and I’m out.
  6. Trying to sleep with me when I’m not ready — and then guilting me for saying no. I’m sick of guys trying to get into my pants before they even knows my last name. I’ll sleep with a guy when I feel damn good and ready myself, and not because he feels its owed to him simply because he can get it somewhere else. I’m a prize to be won, and if he’s not willing to earn it, he can cash out of my life.
  7. Calling me only late at night. The late night calls are completely immature and juvenile. I want a real man who makes and keeps plans with me thoughtfully. If he can’t make me a priority, I’ll never be his option. Plain and simple.
  8. Sending or asking me for nudes. Maybe some women like sending nudes to guys, which has sent some sort of universal Bat-signal to all men that this stuff is okay to ask for and expect. Newsflash: it’s not. I’m not the type that cares to see a picture of a guy’s penis, nor will I be sending pictures of my secret lady garden back. GFTO with these requests to see nudes. Doesn’t anyone like mystery and suspense anymore?
  9. Making excuses for not being able to commit to a relationship. I’m done with guys running in the opposite direction of relationship intent. I’m a grown woman and I’m not dating to rack up a scorecard — I’m dating to find love and someone to share my life with. I don’t buy into this idea of “commitment phobia” and “it takes X amount of time before labels should be brought up.” If I feel it, I feel it. If he doesn’t, then he doesn’t have the option to keep me around any longer. He can go and be confused about what he wants by his damn self.
  10. Treating me like less than I’m worth. Overall, I’m just done with the nonsense. I’m done with the games, the excuses and the justification to put me on the sidelines and treating me like less than I’m worth. I’m confident that I’m a great woman and I’m going to make some guy really lucky and happy someday. Until then, I refuse to put up with garbage.