I’ve Never Met A Man Who Treats Me As Well As My BFFs Do

It’s a tale as old as time—friends always stick by my side while men come and go. I’ve never trusted a man the way I trust my best girls. I know they’ll never break up with me, after all. Here’s why I love them the most:

  1. They always have my back. I’ve never dated a man who stuck up for me the way my friends do. Even when they swear up and down that they’ve got me, a lot of guys don’t measure up when it comes down to the moment of decision. I know that I can count on my best friends to be there for me anytime.
  2. I can trust them with anything. If I need something—really need it—they make it happen. If I require help, they’re always there. I would let any of them borrow any of my possessions at any moment because I know they respect me and my things. I also know that if I was in a bad situation, they would take care of me. Guys? Not so much.
  3. I can tell them my deepest secrets. I can tell them any of my most shameful life stories and know they won’t use them against me. I can’t say the same for men. It’s amazing just how petty guys can be sometimes. It seems like after a breakup some of them turn into entirely different people. It freaks me out.
  4. They remember the important things. Guys are always forgetting everything. It’s like they simply can’t be bothered, which is ridiculous because we ladies know it’s not that difficult. I don’t care what they have to do—get a planner, put alerts in their phones, whatever—men need to keep better track of crap. My friends remember everything and I appreciate it so much.
  5. They’re always there for me. Whenever a guy is treating me well, they’re happy for me. When he inevitably screws me over or breaks my heart, they’re ready with wine, movies, and tissues. No matter how many times I go through a breakup, I know I can count on my girls to be by my side. Obviously, the guy isn’t!
  6. They’re my biggest cheerleaders. Anytime something good happens in my life, my besties are beyond happy for me. They truly believe in me and always encourage me when I’m having any doubts. I’ve had some guys like that in my life but usually, they’re mildly supportive at best. My girls are the only people I can always count on to make me feel like a superhero.
  7. If I feel weak, they remind me I can do anything. I’ve gotten more confident as I’ve aged and I know that I’m capable. Still, we all have our moments. I’m doing all kinds of things I never thought I could, but when I second-guess myself, they’re there to build me back up ASAP. I can’t remember the last time a guy cared that much. It’s the best.
  8. They make me laugh more than anyone. Because we’re so close, we can get real with each other. My girls have a wicked sense of humor and crack me up constantly. I love being around people who make me smile and they definitely do. Guys usually end up making me cry more than they make me laugh.
  9. They are always down to try new things. Men are so resistant to change most of the time. They just want to go about living their boring lives exactly the same and plug me into that schedule somehow. No thanks. I like to adventure and explore and experiment. My friends are rad because they’ll try anything I suggest at least once!
  10. I never feel judged by them. I don’t know how I end up dating snobs. I can’t stand that crap. I feel like they hide it and show their true colors later. My best friends aren’t snobby in the least and I can tell them anything without feeling like they’re looking down on me.
  11. They indulge my silliness. Once in a while, I find a dude who does the same… at least to a point. My friends are always down to get goofy with me and never make fun of me for being myself. I definitely haven’t found a guy who takes it to that level. For now, I’m perfectly happy with my girls.
  12. We rarely fight. My girlfriends are mature adults who communicate, so we rarely fall into disagreement. We all respect and care about each other, so we treat each other well. It’d be nice if I was ever in a romantic relationship where that was the case! I don’t know why lovers don’t treat each other like friends but they should.
  13. If we do argue, it’s respectful and civilized. It’s not even upsetting when my best friends and I have a conflict because we resolve it quickly and easily. We care enough about each other and our relationship to do so. We have a vested interest in treating each other well.
  14. They’re thoughtful and generous. I’m a good friend. I’ve tried to surround myself with people who are awesome, kind, considerate women. I feel incredibly lucky to have such an amazing circle of best friends. I would love to find a man I can say the same for but as of yet, none have measured up.
  15. They love me unconditionally. Ah, yes, the kicker—there always seem to be conditions in relationships, spoken or unspoken. Not so in my friendships. We would do anything for each other and love each other to the moon and back. With guys, it’s all nice words and no follow-through. I’m over it.
  16. They believe in me no matter what. Even in my darkest moments, when I didn’t believe in myself, when I felt like I couldn’t go on… they were there. They picked me up and reminded me of who I am and what I’ve already withstood. They’re the foundation of my strength when I can’t find it inside myself. I’ve never felt that strong support from a man.
  17. I feel beautiful and accepted around them. It doesn’t matter how I look. I always feel I can be completely myself around my best friends. I feel like they see through to my soul and my exterior doesn’t matter. I don’t think I’ve ever felt completely comfortable with a man in that way. I long to feel the same way with a guy someday, but I’m glad that I’ll always have my girl friends.
A former actress who has always loved the art of the written word, Amy is excited to be here sharing her stories! She just completed her first novel, and is also a contributor for Elite Daily, Dirty & Thirty, and Thought Catalog. Amy is the founder of What If Journey and can be found on Twitter @amyhorton18. You can also visit her website at amyhorton.net.