Just Because You’re Single Doesn’t Mean You’re Not A Catch

It’s frustrating when you’re looking for love and only find loneliness. Being super single for a super long time can really get to you, but try to keep your chin up. You’re an amazing woman who deserves love, and make sure you remember that when being solo gets you down.

  1. Your time will come. There is no specific age or time in your life that you’re “supposed” to meet the one. No two loves are the same, so stop comparing yourself to the coupled-up women around you. Your love story will be written; it’s just not the right time yet. It might be hard, but the best thing you can do for yourself is try to be patient.
  2. At least you haven’t wasted time on the wrong guys. Try looking at the bright side: you could’ve spent all this time putting up with BS from boyfriends who just weren’t worth your time. The truth is modern dating sucks. The fact that you’ve spent all this time being single just means that you haven’t been in a relationship with a Mr. Wrong disguised as Mr. Right. You haven’t wasted your life — you’ve been living it all on your own.
  3. Being single AF makes you strong AF. You’re proving to the world that you can be truly independent. You don’t have a man’s shoulder to cry on when times get tough. You depend on yourself, and you’ve learned how to pick yourself back up when you get knocked down. You’re a stronger person because of all the time you’ve spent on your own.
  4. You’re going to make one hell of a girlfriend. You’ve been single for so long that you’ll know exactly how to appreciate a good man when one finally comes along. You won’t take the right guy for granted because you really do know how hard it is find someone like him. You’ve spent a long time waiting to shine as someone’s girlfriend, and that’s why when you finally get your wish, you’ll be amazing at it.
  5. You deserve love. Never forget that you’re worthy of real love. You can’t be down on yourself just because you’re single — it’s a relationship status, not who you are. You need to come the conclusion that you deserve nothing less than true love by learning to love yourself first.
  6. There’s nothing wrong with you. So stop thinking that there is. You’re looking for the reason for your single status in all the wrong places. You’re not too ugly, needy, or easy to get. The only reason you’re single is that you just haven’t found the right guy yet. It’s as simple as that.
  7. Finding love is all about finding confidence. It’s about time you start believing in yourself. Don’t focus on the fact that you don’t have a partner. It’s time to stop giving all your attention to the bad in your life, because that’s how you let it overshadow the good. Once you’re happy with who you are on your own, you’ll finally be able to attract a good man.
  8. Maybe you’ll be one of just a few girls who actually avoid heartbreak. Never having to go through having your heart broken wouldn’t be so bad. Maybe when you do change from single to taken, that status will stick. Who knows — you might never have to go through heartbreak and only feel the excitement of falling into a “happily ever after” kind of love.
  9. Mr. Right is out there. You just haven’t found him yet. There are billions of lackluster men out there, and only one who’s just right for you. You’re looking for a needle in a haystack, and that’s going to take some serious time and work. The payoff will be worth it, but until then, it’s important to stay optimistic.
  10. Being single might just be a blessing in disguise. Right now, you’re owning your independence. Your single status has allowed you to figure out who you are and what you want out of life. The truth is, more women should be like you and take the time to be single instead of trying to make relationships work with all the wrong guys. It may not seem like it right now, but all this time you’ve spent single has really helped you develop as a person.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.
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