It’s hard to admit that I have some serious relationship baggage, but it’s my reality and I’m honest and upfront about who I am. Plus, I don’t think it’s a bad thing. It doesn’t mean I’m not ready for love or that I’m not capable of giving and receiving real love in my future — it just means I’m not sugarcoating anything just to seem like I’m perfect or like I haven’t been screwed over by love too many times. Just because I’m jaded doesn’t mean I’m incapable of real love.
- My dark past allows me to make better choices for my future. The things that I’ve gone through in my past relationships haven’t been easy, but the experiences have shaped me into a better person today. I no longer accept crappy behaviors and I don’t allow myself to be walked all over. I might be jaded, but I know what I deserve now and won’t accept anything less.
- My definition of love has changed for the better. Because I’ve been deeply hurt and jaded by my many heartbreaks, the way I view and accept love has changed. I won’t accept an average love or a love that’s just good enough. I want the kind of love that doesn’t make me question my worth, the kind of love that makes me feel like a million bucks every day.
- I have a lot to give even if I’ve been robbed before. Even if I still struggle with some of my past, I still have so much inside me to give to the right person. Being jaded or damaged doesn’t mean I’m going to punish the next person I’m in a relationship with — it only means I’ll proceed with a bit more caution. There’s nothing wrong with being damaged from the past if it allows me to brave the future with reality in mind. Life isn’t a fairytale.
- The right guy will get my best sides for a reason. I want nothing more than to let someone into my heart again, but he needs to prove he’s worth it to see the best sides of me truly blossom again. When I finally meet the guy who’s willing to take on the challenge of my cautious heart, he’ll experience my best kept secrets I’ve been holding on to for the right moments.
- I don’t recklessly fall into love — I take my time. If my past has taught me anything, it’s not to give my heart up so easily. While it would be nice to dive deeply into the unknown, I can’t help but be wiser from the pain of my past. No one is perfect and despite what anyone says, being jaded by past love doesn’t mean I’m not currently happy living the life I’m living. It simply means that when it comes to matters of new and potential relationships, I’m incredibly cautious.
- My honesty will sit well with the right guy. The right guy for me won’t be fazed by my baggage. Bad breakups and crappy relationship histories happen to the best of us, and he might even have some of his own skeletons in his closet, and that’s OK. Real love isn’t about being in a perfect place in life when you meet — true love prevails even in the most difficult of circumstances. It’s not about the baggage, it’s about who’s willing to help you unpack.
- I’m not afraid to admit I’ve been hurt. I don’t shy away from who I am now because of the crap I’ve been through. I refuse to pretend I’m someone who’s had everything go swimmingly in life and in love — it’s just not reality. I wish more people could understand that being damaged or jaded isn’t something I chose for myself, it’s something that happened to me and I’m doing the best that I can.
- I’ve learned valuable lessons I’m not afraid to talk about. I choose to look at my heartbreaks as experiences that have made me wiser. Like I said, I don’t punish new guys in my life because some jerk before him devastated me. I’m simply honest and upfront about the parts of myself that haven’t completely healed yet, and to me, that’s better than covering up and hiding my true emotions.
- I’m strong enough to try again. My heart might be jaded, but despite everything I’ve been through, I’m ready to give love and to be loved by the right person. I’m willing to invest my heart into someone who truly deserves me. No matter how many times I’ve been hurt before, and no matter what broken pieces I still carry deep inside of me, the right guy will accept me as I am, jaded heart and all, and remind me why all the BS I’ve experienced was completely worth the pain. After all, we’re all just all looking to be accepted for who we are by the right person for us.