I Know Amazing Men Exist Because I Finally Met One

I dated a lot of a-holes before I met “The One,” but now that I have, I don’t get why all guys can’t be this kind, caring, and respectful towards women. After all, when a man actually cares, it’s not that hard for him to treat you right.

  1. Guys can be honest. Guys don’t have to lie to you. Some CHOOSE to lie to you then defend themselves by saying it’s “just in their nature” — and it’s total BS. There is no biological evidence that guys are hard-wired to be dishonest. I finally found a guy who actually knows how to be honest with me. He doesn’t BS me because he knows how much I respect the truth and because he respects me. Relationships are built on trust and a guy who deserves you will know how to be honest.
  2. Guys can text you back in a decent amount of time. Yes, there are men out there who aren’t crappy texters. Guys who are actually interested have respect for your time. They won’t leave you waiting by your phone hoping for a reply days later. I’m lucky to have a guy who actually wants to text when we’re apart. Why? Because he misses me. He’s interested in me so he doesn’t leave me hanging. He’ll text me first, always texts back if I message him, and doesn’t care if I double text. He actually likes me and that’s why he takes the time to text me. If only all guys could be like that…
  3. Guys can make you a priority in their lives. Too many guys make the women in their lives the last bullet point on their list of priorities, but it doesn’t have to be that way. I have someone in my life who actually wants to spend time with me, so even though he’s busy AF, he makes the time. He has a serious job he’s passionate about, hobbies he loves, and amazing friends and family — and yet he still finds the time to be with me. I never feel neglected because I know I’m a priority. That’s the type of relationship every woman deserves.
  4. Guys can tell you exactly how they feel. Men don’t have to keep their feelings a secret. They also don’t have to be unsure of those feelings. In fact, when a relationship is right, dudes know exactly how they feel just like you do. I’m finally with someone who isn’t afraid to tell me how he feels. He isn’t “too cool” to open up and be vulnerable. He’s real with me and his emotions are raw. Seeing that has made me wonder why on earth all men can’t express to women how they feel.
  5. Guys can keep their promises. Not all men go back on their word. I’m with a man who thinks of promises as sacred. He doesn’t make promises to anyone (including me) that he’s not fully confident he can keep. It’s seriously not that hard. Guys just need to stop saying things they don’t mean and stop promising things that they’re unsure of. If the man I’m with can do that, why can’t they all?
  6. Guys can commit to just one woman. Some men like to have their cake and eat it too, but you don’t have to put up with that BS. I’m with a guy who doesn’t want to be with anyone but me. He didn’t drag me along keeping things casual. I didn’t have to beg him to commit to me. Our relationship progressed naturally because he actually wanted to be with me. The day we started dating each other (before we were technically exclusive), we both stopped seeing other people. We focused on each other and all men should be able to give that type of commitment.
  7. Guys can keep your sex life private. Hallelujah, not all men are a-holes. When a dude actually cares about you, he doesn’t need to share the private details of your sex life with his bros. He doesn’t just think of you as an opportunity to brag to his friends. He’ll actually take your sex life seriously because you mean something to him. At the end of the day, you deserve the type of men who will actually respect you enough to keep your private life private.
  8. Guys can care about your happiness. A lot of guys are selfish AF when it comes to dating, but not all of them. I have someone in my life who cares about my happiness just as much as he cares about his own. He doesn’t make selfish decisions that are going to hurt me. He cares about my wants and my needs because he actually wants me to be happy. I don’t see why all men can’t be like that. After all, we all deserve to be happy.
  9. Guys can treat you like an equal. You don’t have to put up with men who make you feel inferior or like the submissive person in the relationship. Good relationships are true partnerships. I’m with a man who would never do something to me that he wouldn’t want me doing to him. We treat each other as equals and always consider the other person’s feelings in our actions. He’s a feminist and in the year 2017, all men should be.
  10. Guys can actually appreciate you. That’s right — a good guy won’t take you for granted. I finally found someone who makes it known that he feels so lucky to have found me and I feel the exact same way about him. He appreciates everything I do for him. He’s so grateful to have me in his life and he’s not afraid to show it. In my mind, all women deserve to feel this kind of love and appreciation, if only men felt that way too…
  11. Guys love you as much as you love them. How much you love each other doesn’t have to be unequal. You don’t have to feel like you’re giving a man everything you’ve got and getting the bare minimum in return. I’m finally getting as much as I give — a man who loves me with his whole heart. At the end of the day all I can think is that if one man has the ability to be this amazing, why can’t all men be this way?
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.