The More You Know Yourself, The Easier It Is To Walk Away from Guys Who Aren’t Worthy Of You

Sometimes you really like a guy and still feel the need to reject them because you know deep down that you deserve more. That may make zero sense, especially since everyone is swiping 24/7 and trying to meet their match, but when you’re secure with yourself, that changes your whole dating process. Here’s why you can walk away from guys who aren’t worthy of you when you’re confident AF.

  1. You would hate yourself if you stayed. Self-worth is a pretty seductive thing. It matters more to you than the hottest guy or the best kisser. Once you’re cool with who you are, you realize that dating a jerk is only going to bring your self-esteem way down and you won’t stand for that.
  2. You don’t even have to think twice about it. Gone are the days when you texted your BFFs for hours about what to say back to your crush or whether something was really a dealbreaker. When you know yourself, you know who you want to date and you make decisions without a second thought. It’s pretty awesome.
  3. You get turned off by bad behavior immediately
  4. You probably wonder how that friend of yours can stay with her emotionally abusive boyfriend. It’s because she doesn’t have the self-confidence to leave, and maybe she even believes what he says to her, which is totally tragic. When you love yourself, you get turned off by guys who treat you like crap. You’re no longer attracted to them and closing the door on them is super simple.
  5. You’re determined to find actual love. You’re not dating just to date. You’d rather hang out with your friends or alone than with the wrong guy any day of the week. Since you’re focused on finding a real connection with someone, you won’t stand for anything else.
  6. You have more important things to worry about. You’ve probably spent way too much time reading and re-reading texts or thinking about a guy who wasn’t right for you. There’s literally no need to do that anymore. Once you get to know yourself, you have more important things to worry about than the wrong guys, like your awesome career and busy, exciting life. And that’s exactly the way that it should be.
  7. You don’t listen to what your friends or family think. Sure, you love the people that you surround yourself with. It would suck not to have your hilarious BFF by your side or not be as close with your actually cool parents. That doesn’t mean that you take all of their advice, though. You know that you’re the only one who really looks out for you and that you have to do what you want.
  8. You have high standards and you’re proud of it. People can call you picky AF and you just shrug. So what if you seem picky? You just have extremely high standards for the guys that you date… and you love that. You’re proud that you have gotten to a point in your life where you can choose who you spend time with.
  9. You have a specific person in mind. Insisting that your next BF have blue eyes, blonde hair, and an athletic build is a bit much. Wanting him to be a kind, caring, compassionate and interesting person is cool. When you’re strong and independent, you know exactly who you want to be in a relationship with, and that makes it really easy to weed out the others who just don’t hit the mark.
  10. You have a healthy approach to rejection. Everyone gets rejected. It happens at work, it happens with friends that you grow apart from, and it happens in your dating life. When guys reject you, you don’t sweat it because you know it just means that you’re not who they’re looking for. When you’re doing the rejecting, you do it as politely as possible, and you always move forward since you know exactly what you want.
  11. You get annoyed AF by the little things. You’re the kind of girl who goes on a first date and wants to leave after five minutes because the guy just insulted your cocktail order (or something equally ridiculous and immature). Your friends might think that you care way too much about things that don’t matter. But to you, they matter more than anything else because the little things prove whether someone is a good person or not.
  12. You want THE boyfriend, not A boyfriend. Anyone can get into a relationship ASAP if they don’t care about who that person actually is. You could have done that a million times by now. Since you’re staying single and holding out for someone who is worthy of you, you want someone who is really going to measure up. In the meantime, you might wish that you could meet the right guy faster, and it might be kind of painful. But that’s okay. The wait is going to be worth it… even if it doesn’t seem like it right now.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.