10 Things You Should Know About Him By The End Of The First Date

First dates are rarely fun, but they’re necessary if you ever want to have a chance at a real relationship and love. It can be hard to determine whether or not it’s worth giving him a chance just based on a couple hours of chatting, so the next time you go on a first date, make sure you’re focusing on these important things:

  1. If he loves or hates his job Careers are kind of an important thing, so anyone who claims that their job doesn’t define them is often lying. So it’s a good idea to know if this guy is at his dream job or if he dreams of walking out one day and trying something new. His answer doesn’t have to determine whether or not you’ll be going on a second date with him, but you should at least know whether or not he enjoys the way he makes a living.
  2. If he’s down on dating as much as you The truth is that you may have a list of things a mile high that you’re not supposed to talk about on a first date. But you’ll probably end up talking about some of it. And you might end up laughing and joking around about how much dating sucks. If this guy feels the same way and would love to meet someone to take himself out of the running, he just might be your match.
  3. If he has a personality Sounds harsh, but it’s super true: a lot of guys show up on first dates like their job is done and they have literally nothing else to do. If you want to see this guy a second time, you need to know if he’s an actual human being with a personalty or just another bore.
  4. If he complains 24/7 If it sucks to be on a first date with a serial complainer, it’s even worse to be in a relationship with one. If nothing is good enough for this guy, from the beer to the waiter to the restaurant, then he’s definitely not the one for you no matter how hot he is.
  5. If he’s a family man Does he call his mom every single day of his life? Does he seem to have a close relationship with his siblings? If you’re also a family-oriented person, the way he relates to his family could determine whether or not he’s going to be worth your time.
  6. If he’s your polar opposite Whether or not you think that opposites attract, it’s pretty amazing when you find that you have stuff in common with a total stranger. If you and this guy honestly struggle to find things to talk about on the first date and the conversation doesn’t flow, then chances are a second date just isn’t in the cards. You might be just way too different to even think about dating.
  7. If he’s a nice guy or a “Nice Guy” Oh, the fake nice guys. You’ve had enough dates with jerks pretending to be sweethearts, thank you very much. You don’t need to go down that road again, so definitely skip on the second date if you get the impression that he’s only being a gentleman to get in your pants. If he seems like he’s a genuinely good person, though, things might end up working out.
  8. If he’s an immature baby Sometimes you can’t tell if a guy is a manchild until later on, but for the most part, he’s going to show is true colors on the first date. He’ll make a big deal out of small things that have gone wrong, and you might feel like you’re babysitting instead of hanging out with a grown man. That’s how you’ll know that you need to say goodbye to this guy and never see him again.
  9. If he’s open-minded Any decent guy will be able to deal when someone doesn’t agree with him or has a different opinion. If he gives you a hard time about your thoughts and beliefs, that’s a sign that he’s going to be a terrible boyfriend.
  10. If he gets you This is probably the most crucial thing… and it’s often the hardest to tell. Was he just agreeing with whatever you said? Does he really think that your job is the coolest thing ever? Trust your gut when deciding whether or not you and this guy vibe really well.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor. She shares gluten-free, dairy-free recipes and personal stories on her food blog, ahealthystory.com. She loves coffee, barre classes and pop culture.