I Know It’s Meant To Be Because He’s Just As Weird As I Am

I’ve always insisted on marching to the beat of my own drum, refusing to conform to those around me at the sake of my own happiness. Even in high school, I was voted “Most Unique” in the yearbook, which essentially meant I was a little “out there.” Since then, I’ve grown into an awesome woman, but that hasn’t changed my tendency towards the abnormal. Instead, I met someone who’s just as weird as I am and my love life is so much better because for it.

  1. We’re not afraid to make fun of each other. On the surface, there are times when our conversations make us sound as if we’re being insulting towards each other, but we both know it’s all in good fun. It’s best not to take life too seriously, and poking fun at each other and learning to laugh at our mistakes makes every day stress seem a little more bearable.
  2. He doesn’t look at me like I’m nuts. Instead of feeling as if I’m being judged for my antics, he immediately plays along. I’m never been on the receiving end of strange looks from him like the ones I’ve gotten from strangers that made me feel unwanted and out of place. I never have to feel ashamed of myself and wonder if he’s judging me because we’re most likely getting judged together.
  3. Random voices are a regular occurrence. Mimicking each other’s voice is never off-limits and we often use strange voices to emphasize a point or describe an event. It’s a fun way to spice up our conversations and make each other laugh. Ask me to do an impression of my fiancé and I can probably give you a pretty good one, even if the voice accompanying it is slightly ridiculous.
  4. We started off as friends. I wholeheartedly believe that the best relationships start off as friendships, and I’m lucky enough to say that’s how it worked out with me. What I hate about dating is having to go on numerous bad ones before finding someone you can tolerate. I already know I can handle my friends, warts and all. Skipping the awkward silences and ‘getting to know you’ chit-chat that usually occurs on the first date was a relief with my guy and felt as easy as if we were just casually hanging out.
  5. I know I can be myself around him. A friend once said to me, “I’m never fully myself around people most of the time because if I let the nuts out right away, it’ll scare them off. I have to slowly introduce them to it.” What I love about my relationship is that I’ve never felt like I had to pretend to be someone I’m not and hold my personality back. I can share my thoughts unabashed and know that he’ll accept me no matter what.
  6. There’s no shortage of inside jokes. There are moments where we look at each other a certain way and laugh or say something out of the ordinary that no one else would understand because you just had to be there to get it. Those funny moments that we experienced together have a special place in my heart, even if no one else was there to witness it. Actually, I especially love those moments because they’re unique to only us and something that we share.
  7. He appreciates my quirks. Or at least he tolerates them. I may get on his nerves from time to time by biting my nails or saying the word “like” a few too many times, but everyone has qualities that are slightly annoying. These small irritations are a part of who I am and instead of driving him up the wall, they’re another reason why he loves me — even if it’s because he can poke fun at me for it. Sure, he still tries to kick my nail biting habit, but he does so in more of a joking, loving way than getting angry every time it happens.
  8. Every day is filled with laughter. We all have bad days or even weeks because no healthy relationship is flawless and without fights. Even so, countless times laughter has proved to be the best medicine. We’ve learned to laugh at silly past arguments (or nuts bitch fights) because we know that later on they don’t matter and seem slightly ridiculous.
  9. We find each other fascinating. I love the way his mind works as much as he loves the way my thoughts run a mile a minute. There’s never anything boring about our relationship and I always find a new quality about him to love.
  10. I no longer have to be weird alone. The worst part about being a weirdo is having to be weird alone and feeling isolated from the world. It’s refreshing to find someone who’s unafraid to be who they truly are. When I’m feeling down, he reminds me how special I am even if others don’t see it, and that’s all I really need.
Emily is a freelance writer living in Tennessee. She received her degree in journalism from Middle Tennessee State University. In her free time, she enjoys playing Pokemon and cuddling her two cats. Follow her on Instagram at @nillacat