I Know My Worth, Which Is Why I’ll Wait For A Guy Who Does Too

I treat dating kind of like a job interview. I have a list of requirements that I’d like to find in a guy and I won’t let him into my life if he’s not up to the task. After all, I’m not about to settle for a mediocre guy when I know I’m worth so much more.

  1. I won’t be messed around. I’ve had to deal with my share of liars, players, and otherwise toxic dudes in the past and I’m not willing to put up with any more crap from guys. There are plenty of people out there who probably have a lower tolerance level for that stuff but that’s not me. I can be patient to an extent, especially if there seem to be underlying reasons a guy is acting out of character, but he shouldn’t mistake my kindness for weakness. This dog bites.
  2. I’ll be good to him if he’ll be good to me. When I really like a guy, I’m 100% faithful and loyal from the very beginning. I’d never intentionally hurt him or try and do him wrong and if I do, I own it and apologize. I’ll have my guy’s back until the end and won’t let other people bash him unless it’s justified. I’m a firm believer in treating others how you wish to be treated, and I want to be treated like a queen.
  3. I’m not a game player. So many people like to mess each other around in this day and age. Thanks to dating apps, we’re consistently overwhelmed with choices on a daily basis when it comes to romantic prospects, but when I like someone, I’m upfront. I’ll straight up tell them I like them. I don’t like wasting time and I don’t like playing games because they’re stressful and unnecessary.
  4. I have my own life. I’m going to carry on grabbing life by the balls and kicking butt whether a guy is in my life or not. I’m a mature, functioning woman who has her act together (most of the time). I have my own priorities, my own personal goals to achieve, and I’m constantly developing and evolving as a human being. If a guy wants to be in my life then he’s going to have to fit around everything else and be worth making space for.
  5. I’m strong enough on my own. I’m very independent and strong-minded and I have the best support system. I don’t need a guy to make my life complete, but if I want a particular guy on the scene, that’s kind of a big deal. I’d consider him an added bonus, not a necessity.
  6. I know what’s important in life. When you go through crap, whatever that may entail, it makes you realize what and who is important in life. Everybody in my support system is there because they add value to my life, so I won’t bring a guy into my inner circle unless he’s worthy of my emotions, time, and effort. #JustSaying
  7. I’m ambitious and driven. Many of us waste time and opportunities because we’re too afraid to step out of our comfort zones, but that’s not me. I couldn’t just coast through life because I want a life full of adventures. I’m constantly striving for that extraordinary life and #LifeGoals, so a guy would have to be on board with that.
  8. I’m not vulnerable. I’m not a little girl anymore so I don’t want to be treated like one. Sure, a guy can shower me with love and attention, but I’d be annoyed if he tried to do everything for me. At 27 years old, I’m capable of being able to do things for myself. Any guy I’m with needs to be able to handle a strong, straightforward woman.
  9. I won’t settle for anything short of amazing. I’ll hold out for the right guy as I don’t have the energy to deal with all the wrong ones. What’s the point in being with someone just because it’s comfortable or you don’t want to be on your own? To me, there isn’t one. That’s not real love. Real love is passionate, it’s fiery, it’s “OMG I can’t breathe when he makes eye contact with me and it makes my legs go all wobbly like jello.” Real love is worth holding out for. After all, I’m only going to accept a guy into my life who can potentially be my future husband. Why? Because I don’t want to waste time. Oh, and because I’m #WifeyMaterial myself.
Katie Davies is a British freelance writer who has built a career creating lifestyle content that caters to the modern woman. When she's not sipping tea, shopping, or exploring a new city, you'll probably find her blogging about her fashion and travel adventures at https://trendytourist.co.uk.