How Do You Know When You’re In Love? 12 Feelings You’ll Experience When It’s Real

You know you’re in love when everything starts making sense. You’re happier both personally and professionally and you feel more confident in yourself. I’m not saying single people are insecure and angry, but when your love is real, your outlook on life is different and you start to feel these 12 positive things.

  1. You Finally Understand Love. Words like “soulmate” always made you roll your eyes in disgust. You didn’t believe there was one perfect person for everyone. And while you still might not be 100% convinced, you now understand what it’s like to find someone who makes you feel complete. Your partner isn’t perfect, but being with them makes you feel pretty damn flawless.
  2. You Feel Their Pain. When they’re upset, you’re upset. Even when their struggle has nothing to do with you, you take it upon yourself to try to fix the problem. They’re your partner and you’re connected. That means their problem is your problem and their stress is your stress (and vice versa, of course).
  3. You’re Comfortable Around Their Family. Let’s be honest, most families aren’t shipping relationships until there’s a ring on someone’s finger. Even though they’re not talking about marriage (yet), there’s still that level of comfort. You’ve spent a lot of time around each other. They know you and you know them enough to want them in your life forever.
  4. You Can Spend Time Doing Nothing. Your idea of a hot date night is doing nothing but sitting on the couch. You don’t feel the need to get dressed up and see the sights every weekend. You’d rather stay in, eat junk food, and enjoy each other’s company. You appreciate quiet time with your bae and that means you’re in love. If you weren’t, you’d be out and about most nights.
  5. You Can’t Believe You Ever Loved Before. Remember when you were head over heels for that asshole who played lacrosse? It’s crazy to look back at that now because you realize how wrong you were. Your definition of love was distorted until you found your partner. That’s how you know your love is real. You can’t even compare this love to anything else — nothing comes close.
  6. You Strive To Be Better. Your partner makes you feel confident in yourself, which makes you want to be the person of your dreams. They’re your safety net. You know they’ll always be there to catch you when you fall and lift you right back up. You’re not afraid to take chances anymore, and that’s because you’re in love.
  7. You Know Their Schedule. You know what time they get off work, when they have a doctor’s appointment, and where they’re meeting their friends for dinner. To put it simply, you know their schedule better than they do. And that’s not because you’re a control freak (okay, maybe a little), it’s because you’re in love and therefore want to know where your partner is every second of the day. There’s nothing wrong with that!
  8. You Don’t Feel The Need To Rush. You two are on your own time-frame. You don’t feel the need to rush your relationship and neither does your partner. That’s a pretty good sign your love is real. Neither of you needs to prove your love to the world with a rushed engagement or a ton of flirty pictures on Instagram.
  9. You’re Comfortable Sharing Everything. Do you two live together? That means you share everything. Your closet space, food, dishes, the list goes on and on. When you were younger, you used to hate sharing a space (especially with roommates). But your partner isn’t a roommate. They’re your partner and you love them enough to want them all up in your space.
  10. You’re Always Thinking Of Their Best Interest. Regardless of where you’re going or what you’re doing, you’re always thinking of them. Before you pick a restaurant, you make sure it’s somewhere they’d like. Before you yell during a fight, you make sure your words aren’t too hurtful. You consider their interests and feelings for everything and that’s because you’re in love and no longer think selfishly.
  11. You Feel Lucky. You know your love is real when you feel lucky to be with your partner! Seriously, how many people have you dated that weren’t good enough for you? And you knew it, right? Not this time, though. You know you’re dating someone just as good as you, if not better. That’s exactly how it should be.
  12. You Don’t Have To Talk About Forever. You don’t spend a lot of time discussing your future. That’s because you don’t have to. You both know you’re going to be together forever. Why discuss the inevitable, right? Neither of you ever feel insecure about your relationship status because you’re both in it, completely.
Jordan White is a writer based in Scottsdale, Arizona with more than 8 years of experience. She graduated from Northern Arizona University with a degree in Rhetoric and Creative Writing in 2015 and while there, she wrote for The Daily Wildcat. She has since written for sites including FanBread, and, of course, Bolde. You can find about more her on Facebook. She has a passion for giving her audience something to laugh about and despises the heat more than anything.