I Know My Worth Because I Built It Myself

When I say that I’m deserving of love or that I’m worth the effort, it’s not because I was just born amazing. I’ve worked my ass off to get to where I am and I’m damn proud of myself. The amazing things in my life weren’t handed to me on silver platter — I earned every last one of them. Is it any wonder I know my worth? I built it myself.

  1. I’ve failed more times than I’ve won, which makes winning amazing. I didn’t get this way because stuff just worked out for me easily. I am who I am because while I failed multiple times, I got right back up and fought to become stronger and to get ahead. When I achieve things in life, it’s so much sweeter knowing that I earned it all on my own.
  2. I didn’t sit around and wait for Prince Charming to give me a life — I gave it to myself. While some people need guys to give them things they didn’t set out to get themselves, I built my empire from the ground up on my own and I’m not even close to being done yet. I believe strongly that being a good partner means I bring something real to the table. I’m a catch because I contribute to the life and the love that I want — I won’t simply sit back and collect what someone else worked for.
  3. I keep trying despite my failures. I won’t settle for a guy who doesn’t value me and I won’t stop trying to find love just because so far I’ve been met with a bunch of jerks who didn’t appreciate who I am. I’m resilient and I don’t give up on myself, which is why I know I’m going to find what I’m looking for- someone who sees my true worth.
  4. I’m stronger because I’ve been hurt. Some people might see me as damaged goods because I’ve been screwed over a lot in love, but I see it differently. My worthiness has an edge because I’m not afraid to wear my pain proudly, like badges of honor from the crappy disappointments and heartbreaks I’ve survived. I’m worthy because I’ve been to hell and back and I’m still shining.
  5. I taught myself the things I wanted to know. No one handed me a magical manual on how to build my value as a woman — I had to figure it out myself (and boy, did I ever figure it out). If I wanted to learn something, I taught myself. If I wanted to get something accomplished, I went out of my way to do so. I’m not the girl who says “I wish I could do that” — I’m the girl who stands up and does it.
  6. I make the most of my time. I use my time wisely and I haven’t been wasting precious years in the absence of love pining away at becoming someone’s wife. Instead, I’ve been chasing my dreams and learning to better myself in the best ways that I can. I’m worthy because I’m a lone warrior who rises to every occasion, no matter how challenging it seems.
  7. I won’t settle for mediocre when I know I’m extraordinary. I’m not going to settle for some half-assed love with a guy who thinks I’m as good as it gets — screw that. I want the guy who knows I’m irreplaceable. I won’t stand to be in someone’s life as only their shadow when I deserve to be on the main stage beside them.
  8. I’m not conceited; I’m confident for good reason. I struggled for so long with feeling happy with myself. I let guys convince me that I was nothing because of the things they would say to me or in the way they treated me. Not anymore; I’m done with it. I thought about it, looked at my life and I realized that I’m pretty damn amazing. I deserve to have someone who feels the same way about me.
  9. I believe in myself and what I have to offer. I know that what I bring to the table isn’t basic. I’m a unique and well-rounded woman and I know this because I’ve built myself up from the ashes I was after too many guys burned me into the ground. I won’t let another guy have that same power over me, so I’m going to hold my head high and keep going towards what I know I deserve.
  10. My hard work has paid off and I’m ready to collect. I’ve spent a ton of time building myself up as a person and I’m completely proud of who I am and what I’ve accomplished. I’ve gotten to know exactly who I am and what I’m capable of achieving in my life and I won’t settle for anything or anyone that’s not on my level. I know what I’m worth because I built it myself — and now I’m ready and deserving of having that love in my life.