You Know You’re With The Wrong Person When The Honeymoon Phase Ends

I’ve watched way too many friends stay in relationships that just aren’t doing it for them anymore. The initial spark had been snuffed, but for some reason, they’d never admit it. The excuse was always that that’s what was supposed to happen because the honeymoon phase only lasts so long. In reality, there is no honeymoon phase. When you’re with the right person, it should always be blissful.

  1. There should always be some level of simple affection like hugs, kisses, and hand-holding. And it should be easy—you won’t even realize you’re doing it most of the time. And yet, even though it’s second nature, there’s still meaning behind the affection. When you and your other half become passive toward each other and barely share a greeting in the morning, that’s when the red flags should go up. Are you even thinking of each other as lovers anymore? Or has it just become a best friends situation now?
  2. When you no longer want a deeper knowledge of the person you’re with, there’s a problem. It literally doesn’t matter how much time has gone by in the relationship. There’s always something new to learn about the person you’re with, and you should always want to know what that is. Deep talks won’t get boring and you’ll certainly never repeat conversation topics. If you’re convinced you know everything about your partner now and just don’t care to ask anymore, it might be time to look at where things have gone.
  3. You shouldn’t ever dread going to see them or think of it as a chore. So many of my friends have had these types of relationships and I think it’s a major warning sign. They have to literally pencil in time during the week to see their guy, and you know the whole time they’d rather be with their girls. Instead, love should always be the opposite of that. Even if you’ve been dating 10 years, it’s still extremely possible to get excited about seeing your guy.
  4. Your other half should flash through your mind a lot more than just once every three days. This is warning-sign number two I see in my friends. Sometimes, they forget they’re dating someone until we ask about their partners. It’s always followed by their eyes getting big and them rushing to respond to an old text from their guy because they “forgot.” That, I think, marks the official end of the honeymoon stage.
  5. You shouldn’t ever find yourself forgetting to text or call. Because your other half will probably be on your mind some point during the day, this won’t ever become a thing. The problem arises when you don’t feel that rush of excited-ness to ask how their day is going or tell them a play-by-play of what just happened to you. If they aren’t on speed-dial number one in your mind, it’s probably time to reevaluate.
  6. Time shouldn’t be relative in the relationship. In fact, the idea of time kind of flies out the window. Three years together can easily feel like three months—and let’s not even get started about the hangouts. There’s literally never enough time in a day to see your other half and when you’re away from that person, time can’t go any slower. If you find the role time plays in your relationship are completely the opposite of this, you might want to run.
  7. They should always be one of your favorite topics of conversation. Sorry to friends all around the world for this one, but I couldn’t leave it out. One of the most obvious signs of someone being in love is when they can’t shut up about the person they’re dating. Obviously, this naturally fades with time but it never completely stops.
  8. Instead of dwindling down, that passion should keep growing infinitely. It really doesn’t matter if you’ve been together for 5 months or 15 years. Honestly, (like I mentioned above) time is nothing when it comes to a relationship. Being with someone for a long time shouldn’t mean you get sick of them. In reality, it can (and should) mean your affection and love for them has grown to levels you can’t even measure anymore.
  9. You should be reminded that you two “click” every time you see them. All it takes is a look at their face—the love will take over the rest from there. As soon as you look at them, you’ll know you’re where you’re supposed to be in life. If you feel nothing but dread when you look their way, get out now. The longer you stay in a relationship like that, the more it’ll destroy your heart for the future.
Hi! I'm Amanda, and I'm in the final steps to becoming a Spanish teacher. I'm passionate about traveling, blogging, watching scary movies and taking photos. You can find me either eating chocolate or, currently, watching The Office for hours on end.
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