This Is How You Know You’ve Finally Moved On From Him

It can take a while to get over someone you were really into, but time and distance work wonders for even the most broken of hearts. If you’re not sure if you’ve completely moved on from the guy you were once so in love with, ask yourself if these things apply to you:

  1. You don’t feel the need to check his social mediaYou used to be unable to go through a whole day without checking his Facebook and Twitter, but now you even forget to check. No more stalking for you!
  2. You see he’s dating someone new and feel nothing. When the breakup was fresh, the idea of your ex dating someone else made you want to cry, but now you couldn’t care less. Good luck to that poor woman!
  3. You don’t talk about him. You used to talk everyone’s ears off about your ex and the breakup: your friends, your first dates, the mailman. Now you just don’t feel the need to mention him or analyze what happened between you. It’s over.
  4. Love songs don’t make you depressed. When certain love songs would come on the radio, you’d immediately think about your ex and feel so low. Now you can happily sing along without relating the lyrics to him.
  5. You’ve started fantasizing about someone elseIt’s been a while since your breakup, and you’re so over your ex that you find yourself imagining your future and bed with someone else in it. Maybe it’s someone you’ve met IRL, maybe it’s someone on TV. Either way, your ex has been fired as the star of your fantasies.
  6. You don’t hate or love him. There were times when you thought you’d always love your ex. Then there were times when you thought you hated their very existence. Now, you actually don’t feel either thing. You’re completely indifferent. That’s when you know you’re over your ex, because hate can sometimes be closer to passion than you think.
  7. You can be friends. You would rather have pulled out your teeth than agreed to be friends with your ex when the breakup was fresh. But now that the dust has settled and you’ve moved on from him, you can bear the thought of being in the same room with him. You won’t want to punch him or make out with him. You can view him platonically.
  8. You don’t avoid his favorite hangouts. There was a time when going to places you’d been together in the past would require disguises of Lady Gaga proportions, or you’d simply avoid them altogether. But now, you don’t mind if you happen to run into him. You can be civil and then move on with your day without it being an issue.
  9. You don’t feel a thing when someone mentions him. When you run into one of your mutual friends, you don’t mind what they say about him. Oh he got a new job? He’s doing so well he got a promotion? He had a great holiday in Italy? Well done to him. He might as well be a stranger — that’s how little you feel.
  10. You don’t care if he says nasty things about you. If the breakup wasn’t amicable, you might have worried about what he would have said about you to mutual friends or the general public. But now that time has passed, you actually don’t care. He can say whatever he wants because you’re so over him and you know the truth. That’s all that matters.
  11. You can’t remember his phone number. His phone number used to be programmed in the speed-dial section of your mind, but now you can’t remember any of the digits. It’s been replaced with other people’s numbers.
  12. You don’t stalk him out of hatred. Sometimes you used to enjoy taking a look at his Facebook profile and seeing what a loser he was. You took a bit of pleasure out of seeing him make a fool of himself or how he looked like he’d put on weight. But nowadays, you have better things to do with your time than check up on how crappy he is.
  13. You don’t freak out when your phone rings. You used to be afraid to miss any calls or texts in case it was your ex making contact. But now, you don’t even flinch when you see a missed call from an unknown number. Instead of biting your nails and wondering if it was him and if he’ll call again, you decide it’s probably a wrong number and forget about it.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.