Ladies, Don’t Be Ashamed of Giving Yourself Your Own “Happy Ending”

Ladies, Don’t Be Ashamed of Giving Yourself Your Own “Happy Ending” ©iStock/Tassii

Thankfully, we as a society have (mostly) moved past the era of female masturbation being shameful. Unfortunately, it’s still not nearly as accepted or talked about as it is among our male counterparts. Which is absolutely ridiculous! Getting yourself off doesn’t just feel great, it’s good for you too.

  1. Screw the taboo. I don’t know why everyone thinks it’s super embarrassing to talk about flicking their own bean, but we are living in the 21st century. It’s totally normal, and anyone who doesn’t want to talk about it is dealing with societal norms that are super outdated. Women are sexual creatures and we should be allowed (just like men) to explore them. Ditch the double standard, and don’t be afraid to dish with your girlfriends about your tips and tricks for getting the job done.
  2. Orgasm is the best stress reliever. I’m not a chemistry  person but I don’t need to be to know that that shit about climaxing releasing stress-relieving hormones is true. It’s practically impossible to be in a bad mood or up-tight when you’ve escaped to ecstasy land for a few minutes. Next time you’re stressed, find a quiet space and just do you. You’re welcome.
  3. Don’t take being a woman for granted. I feel awful for guys that they can’t just get themselves off anywhere and at anytime. There’s so much involved, from the obvious boner to the sticky mess requiring clean up afterwards. But we females don’t have to worry about any of that! As long as we have a couple minutes and something that resembles privacy we can do our thing in peace. Hallelujah.
  4. Single ladies welcome. It’s nice for some women that they have someone who can tend to their needs all the time, but orgasm is a joy of relationships that can actually be done without the relationship. Imagine having the pleasure without the arguing, the drama, the politics and the meeting each other’s families? Sounds like heaven to me.
  5. Research makes you a better teacher. If you are coupled up, your self-exploration will make you better in bed. There are tons of reasons to perfect your methods for your own enjoyment, but knowing your own body just makes it that much easier to show a guy (or girl) what you like. How can you tell your partner what works and doesn’t work if you don’t know yourself? Think of it as helping the greater good.
  6. It doesn’t have to be private. This depends on the person and your comfort level, but some partners will find it incredibly hot to watch you handle yourself in front of them. Or you can even use their hand to help out when you’re doing something of your own. Think about it, what’s the only thing better than being pleased by your partner? Bring yourself to orgasm the perfect way that only you can do while they also participate! Talk about a win-win.
  7. You don’t need to get fancy. Some people like to use toys, porn and all the bells and whistles, but it is entirely up to you what you choose. Play that song you love, light candles and draw a bath, or opt for simple. There’s no right way to do this, so find what works. You don’t need anything other than a little imagination to create the perfect mood.
  8. Beware of the vibrator. This one is totally personal preference, but if you decide to try out those lovely battery operated friends, know what you’re getting into. Yes, they feel incredible and yes, you’ll never want to go back to the good old fashioned sex, but that may be just the problem. If you’re the type of woman who knows that after that little butterfly has sent you soaring that your future (or current) partner is never going to do the trick again, you might want to reconsider. All is not fair in love and war.
  9. Talk about a confidence boost. There’s something incredible empowering about knowing that you don’t need a man (or woman) to have your needs met. Yes, it’s different when you get to just lie there and enjoy the ride someone else is taking you on, but the reality is, you can do it all by yourself. And probably much faster too. I am not belittling sexual activity with another person. But you’ve gotta admit, giving yourself a pat on the back feels good.
  10. Communication goes both ways. Maybe you’ve been struggling to get your partner to the ultimate pleasure peak. Or maybe they’ve hinted awkwardly at wanting to try something new. If you’re in touch with your own self induced orgasm then you’ll be more open to the idea of your partner sharing what makes them tick. If you can have an open conversation about what you both like and how you can maximize the stimulation, your sex life is going to skip to a whole other level of amazingness. So give it a go! You won’t be sorry.
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