Learning To Love Being Single & Independent Is The Best Lesson You Can Learn

Being single can be an amazing experience or a miserable one — it totally depends on your attitude. But if you can keep the good vibes going, you’ll quickly see that these are the most important days of your life. Here’s why standing tall on your own is the greatest lesson of all:

  1. You know who you are. You’ve had the time and space and energy to figure yourself out. You don’t have to think about anyone else’s needs, and that’s okay. You’re not selfish, you’re just doing what you can to make sure that you’re the best person you can be.
  2. You’re not blinded by love. When you make decisions, you don’t have to base them on your boyfriend or what he’s dealing with. You can make the right choices for you, right here, right now. You’re not blinded by love or anything else. While you might want a BF and that’s totally cool, you can still appreciate the fact that you have your head on straight.
  3. You can deal with anything. Think about how much you’ve survived in this whole thing called dating. Sure, maybe at first you found this stuff hard to take, but now it’s truly no big deal. You shrug off ghosts and cancellers and rudeness. You don’t dwell on first dates that don’t turn into second ones. You know this is all part of it and that you can handle it.
  4. You can avoid drama. You’re living such a great single life, so why would you throw that all away just to have a boyfriend? When you do fall in love next, you’re not going to let anyone come between you and your life. You’re going to avoid drama of all kinds and you’re going to make sure that it’s the right relationship for you.
  5. Your next love story will be different. It’s really hard to love someone if you can’t even with your life, or you’ve got low self-esteem or anything like that. Once you can stand tall on your own, that guarantees that your next love story will be different. In a good way, of course.
  6. You’re creating your future. You may think you’re super single and you need to add a boyfriend into the equation, fast, or you’re going to end up alone. But you’re not going to end up that way. You may be on your own now, but that’s just right now. You’re actually creating your future because you’re figuring out what kind of person you want to be and what kind of life you even want to lead. You’re building the blocks for your future every day.
  7. You’ll be so much happier. If you always need a guy, you’re never going to be happy. Period. Once you can get past that lame attitude, you can truly experience joy no matter what’s going on.
  8. You can leave. You’ve been on your own and you know it doesn’t suck. It’s actually the exact opposite of that, so when things don’t work out or you want to walk away from a crappy almost relationship, you can deal with it. You’re strong enough and love yourself enough to know you’re better off on your own than in a bad situation.
  9. You’re the definition of amazing. Even if you have your low moments like anyone else, you’re amazing and you’re the kind of girl that people envy. You don’t need a guy but you want one, and that’s a really crucial distinction that will get you a lot further.
  10. You take your own advice. You listen to your gut and do what feels right. You know when to take a chance on a new guy and when to give up. You basically take your own advice, and that’s really cool.
  11. You value your time. You don’t date just to date. You don’t stay on a bad date more than an hour. You make sure you’re hanging out with your friends and working hard and doing what you love. Since you value your time, you won’t let anyone else waste it.
  12. You own your mistakes. You can admit when you’ve done something wrong, which is more than a lot of people can say. You’ve had enough time to think about what went south in previous relationships and you can take responsibility for your part in the whole deal.
  13. You’ll be better off. When you find love, you’re going to in a much better position than if you were a relationship girl who couldn’t stand being alone for more than five seconds. You’ve got your act together and that’s exactly why you’re the perfect girlfriend for the right guy. So be glad that you had this time to stand on your own. It just might be the key to your romantic future.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.