Being single can be a lot of fun, but it can also get lonely, especially as we get older and see our friends starting to settle down. It’s hard not to get discouraged, but try to banish these negative thoughts from your mind for good, because they’re completely untrue:
- You’re completely alone.You’re not alone. You’re never alone. Yes, there may be times when there isn’t physically someone to turn to, but instead of focusing on the fact that you’re single, be grateful for the people who actually are in your life. Those are the people that count.
- There’s something wrong with you. There is nothing wrong with you. Dating is annoying, tedious, and exhausting. The dating game has also changed drastically, given the influx of people with a wandering eye. Don’t worry — the right person will come along and he’ll love you for you.
- It’s your fault that you’re single.After going on bad date after bad date, you may want to just blame yourself for your relationship failings, but don’t. Maybe you’re busy with your career or maybe you’re still piecing yourself together from the hardships of life. Just don’t say that it’s your fault that you’re single. It’s no one’s fault.
- There’s no one out there for you. There are billions of people on this earth. It’s absurd to assume that there’s not one single person out there that you can connect with or are attracted to. Maybe he’s on the other side of the world — you never know. Go on a trip, go out in the world, be open to finding someone, and you will.
- You’ll never find anyone. Never say never. Anything is possible and you aren’t doomed just because of your current situation. Anything can happen, so just wait and see.
- You missed your chance with your ex. Don’t, for a single second, look back and have hindsight bias about your ex. Don’t go back to him just because you’re afraid that you won’t find someone better. You broke up for a reason. Remind yourself that before you pick up the phone.
- You don’t have anyone to do stuff with. A boyfriend isn’t the only person you need to go out and do things with. Go with your friends, go with your sibling, or even go by yourself. No one’s judging you because you’re not with a date on date night. Live your life, embrace being single, and have fun while you can.
- You should settle for someone you don’t really like that much. As women, we have that internal clock that we always worry about. We calculate how much time we think we’ll date someone before we marry him and before we have children. Unfortunately, life doesn’t always take your plans into account. Don’t settle for someone just because you’re afraid that you ran out of time.
- You should just give up. There’s a saying that goes, “The moment you’re ready to quit is usually the moment right before the miracle happens. Don’t give up.” It may get really tough, but hang in there. Patience is the hardest virtue, and being single isn’t the end of the world.
- You can’t be happy unless you’re with someone. If you base your happiness around another person, then you’ll always be disappointed. Your happiness should come from within and the person that you’re with should be the person that you share your happiness with. Don’t rely on someone else to make you happy
- It’s too late for you. It’s never too late to meet someone. It’s never too late to make memories. It’s never too late to fall in love. Be open to the fact that life may have more coming for you. Take everything one day at a time.
