Too many of us try to hide our feelings instead of embracing them. Of course, there’s nothing wrong with being sensitive. It’s healthy to be in touch with our feelings, and it can even make our relationships stronger. Here’s what it’s like to date a sensitive, vulnerable woman:
- We don’t show our emotions as often as you’d think. You might not even realize you’re dating someone sensitive, because we try to hide it as best as we can. After all, women are always made fun of for being emotional, and we don’t want to embrace the stereotype.
- We treat our boyfriends right. We know what it feels like to be miserable, so we’re going to try our best to avoid insulting you or purposely picking fights with you. We never want you to feel as horrible as we’ve felt in the past.
- We say we’re “fine” to sound stronger. Despite what you believe, we don’t say we’re fine in order to confuse you or piss you off. We do it to pretend that we have our emotions under control, because we don’t want to be the girl who whines about every little thing.
- We need reassurance that you care. Even if we’ve been dating you for years, we want you to remind us that you love us and find us attractive. After all, sometimes feelings disappear, and we want to make sure that we haven’t become a nuisance to you.
- We remember all the bad things we hear. If you say something mean to us, we aren’t going to forget about it. We’ll replay the conversation in our head months later, which is why you should watch your words around us.
- You make it worse when you make fun of us. When we get upset over something silly, you don’t have to point out how ridiculous we’re being. We already know it, and hearing you make fun of us is only going to make us cry harder.
- We expect you to explain yourself. If we get upset over something “silly” that you did, all you need to do is explain your reasoning behind it. If you can make us understand why you did what you did, we won’t be as angry with you.
- We don’t always want to go out. We can get overwhelmed easily, which is why we won’t want to go out with your friends every weekend. It’s not that we dislike them, it’s just that we’re not always going to be in a social mood.
- We want you to open up to us. We’re going to tell you all about our feelings, and we want you to return the favor. We don’t want to be with anyone who’s too stoic to admit when he’s upset.
- We don’t want to be babied. Being vulnerable isn’t the same thing as being weak. We can still be strong and independent, even though we’re a little touchy.
