What It’s Like When Your Ex Has Moved On, But You Haven’t

What It’s Like When Your Ex Has Moved On, But You Haven’t ©iStock/lechatnoir

After being with a guy for so long, it’s hard not to think about all the memories you shared and reflect on what it was like was when you were together. It can take a really long time to get over him, and it’s especially difficult when he’s they one who’s moved on  and you still haven’t. To be honest, it seriously blows.

  1. Everything still reminds you of him. Whether a song comes up on your playlist or you walk into a restaurant that you’ve been to with him, even the tiniest trigger can get you thinking about him again. It’s especially frustrating when all you want to do is forget him, yet you see him everywhere you look.
  2. You still bring him up in conversation. Somehow, he always slips into conversation when you’re talking to someone. You can’t help but bring up a story about an experience you shared together or something he did to make you laugh. Ugh.
  3. You constantly find yourself wondering how and what he’s doing. There always comes those times late at night when you’re alone and all of a sudden, you find yourself wondering exactly what he’s doing at that very second, who he’s dating, and whether or not he’s happy without you in his life.
  4. You continue to stalk him on social media. You need to feel some sort of connection to him, so you check up on his social media accounts just to know what he’s up to. You scroll through his photos and read his statuses so you can still feel like you know him. Obviously, this is a terrible idea.
  5. You want to call or text him, but you know it’ll just make things 10 times worse. You get that sudden urge to pick up the phone and talk to him for even just a few minutes so that you can hear his voice. Thankfully, your common sense steps in and reminds you that it’s a terrible idea.
  6. You compare everyone else to him. Every guy is either too tall, too short, not good looking enough, etc. No matter how much you try, you can’t help but compare everyone to him. He really set the bar for you, and it’s tough to lower it.
  7. You still can’t even consider dating anyone new. You’re not even interested in entertaining the idea of dating because you immediately assume that no one will be as good as him.
  8. If you do try dating other guys, you’re unable to fully commit. If you actually do force yourself to finally try dating, you always end up reaching a plateau that stops you from giving yourself completely to another person. You’re either half-ass dating or too afraid to commit in fear that maybe your ex will come back to you again.
  9. It gets really lonely. It’s hard not to feel alone, especially if he’s moved on by dating someone else. The nights are the worst, and so are the third-wheel hang outs with all of your coupled-up friends.
  10. It seems impossible not to miss him. You try your hardest to not think about him or get sad, but somehow, he always pops up in your mind and you start missing him again. The worst part is knowing that all you can do is be patient and wait to heal and finally move on.
Lindsey is a Digital Advertising Professional and Freelance Writer based in New York City. In her spare time, she enjoys running, traveling, and drinking ridiculous amounts of coffee. Follow her on Twitter @lindseyruns