The Longer I’m Single, The More I Want To Stay Single

I don’t care what anyone says — single life is amazing. When I’m in a relationship, I sometimes forget how happy I am when I’m alone. Having a boyfriend is nice sometimes, but rolling solo is always great! Here are 12 reasons I might just pick the single permanently:

  1. I like the simplicity. Living life on my own is easier. I don’t have to navigate the ups and downs of a relationship. I can focus on my own stuff and I can do whatever I need to do to make myself happy. I don’t have to take another person into consideration when I make every single decision. It keeps my life grounded.
  2. I have a lot of fun on my own. I’ve never been someone who needed another person around to have a good time. I like being by myself and I’m quite comfortable with it. If I need social interaction, I have plenty of friends and hobbies. I’m certainly never bored. Men can be fun but I’m certainly fine without one.
  3. I like my flexible schedule. Yes, I have a lot going on, but it’s on my terms. I don’t have to feel guilty because I can’t make enough time for a guy or needy because I want him to make more time for me. I manage my days in the way that works best for me without anyone else’s schedule dictating any of it. It’s pretty bomb.
  4. I feel empowered by the single life. I’ve never felt as strong and capable with a man as I do when I’m alone. It forces me to live completely in charge of myself, my choices and my destiny. I love it. I’m accountable to myself and I find that I make stronger decisions that are more true to who I am. I don’t want to bend my journey to fit some guy’s whims.
  5. I’m very focused and productive on my own. When I date, I use my relationship as an excuse to focus on all the wrong things. I get wrapped up in my emotions and in his needs instead of getting my own stuff done. It’s a problem. When I’m single, I explore all the other aspects of my life that I love and zero in on those instead. It’s better for me.
  6. I get to adventure and explore. For someone who loves being alone, there’s nothing better than solo travel and adventure. I can be selfish with my time and go wherever my heart desires. I’m not beholden to anyone else’s needs — I can run around all day if I want or I can take it easy without feeling guilty. I love discovering new sights and places on my own.
  7. I’m completely in control of my own money. I love deciding exactly where to spend my money. I can tighten up and save it or splurge on something important to me. I never have to run those decisions by anyone else or worry about feeling inadequate for making less than my partner. I pay my own bills and I’m proud of it.
  8. Single life allows me a great deal of freedom. I get complete autonomy in every aspect of my life. I can do what I want when I want and no one is there to change that. I can up and move somewhere else tomorrow if I decide that’s what I want. Big decisions are so much easier when there’s nothing major like a relationship tying me down. I like that intense independence.
  9. I like a non-traditional lifestyle. I don’t think I’ll ever want a “normal” life. My work schedule is all over the place and I love it that way. I have multiple jobs, tons of hobbies, and I’m always trying something new. I don’t want a family or a big house or a 9-to-5. I crave travel and I’d like to live in a bunch of different places. I only get one life and I want to make it exactly what I want. That’s simply easier on my own.
  10. I have time to grow and improve myself. Inner development takes up a good deal of time and energy. I always like myself better when I’m single because it allows me to really dig deep and become the person I want to be. I’m not squandering away my days on a doomed relationship. I get to work instead on a relationship with the one person who will always be here — me.
  11. I get to focus on my other relationships. Each of us has a limited quantity of mental and emotional energy. When I’m dating someone, I have to spread that energy thinly. That means that my friends, my family and even I all lose out a little. When I’m single, I can instead focus on being my best for everyone who is already important in my life.
  12. I’m the happiest I’ve ever been. The bottom line is that I’m so happy single, why would I give that all up? This is the best I’ve ever felt in my entire life. I know who I am and I’m working to achieve all my dreams. There’s literally nothing in my world that makes me miserable. I’ve built the life I want for myself and I’m going to keep doing so. If I do it alone that’s perfectly fine with me.
A former actress who has always loved the art of the written word, Amy is excited to be here sharing her stories! She just completed her first novel, and is also a contributor for Elite Daily, Dirty & Thirty, and Thought Catalog. Amy is the founder of What If Journey and can be found on Twitter @amyhorton18. You can also visit her website at