If You’re Looking For Your Soulmate, Your BFF Just May Fit The Bill

Soulmates don’t have to be romantic lovers; they can definitely be friends. Who says that your forever person needs to be a lover? Here are 12 ways your friends can be soulmates too.

  1. They help you grow. You’re never stagnant with this soulmate of yours. They’re always helping push you to be the best person you can be. They know that you have a habit of moving too fast in relationships, so they poke you when you have a new flame to remind you to slow the hell down. As a result, you grow out of old habits and grow into a healthier person—all beside your bestie.
  2. You trust their advice. You know that their advice is good because you’ve been taking it for years at this point. It hasn’t lead you astray, so they’re the person that you trust when you need some direction. Their advice always comes from a loving place that wants the best for you, so you gladly take it.
  3. They call you out on your crap. Even though their advice is good, they aren’t afraid to tell you the tough stuff when you need to hear it. Like when the person you’re dating is an idiot—your best friend is the first to tell you to get the hell out of there before you get hurt. This may upset you a little bit at first, but you know they’re probably right and that it’s all coming from a good place. You tend to listen to this person… or at least hear them out.
  4. They never judge you. Even when your soulmate bestie is telling you tough stuff, they aren’t judging you. They aren’t deciding whether or not what you did is good or bad. Rather, they’re just trying to find a way to be supportive by saying something, just listening, or doing whatever else needs to be done.
  5. They’re impeccable listeners.Your best soulmate knows just what to say, but they also know when it’s time to just buckle down and listen. During those times when you’re really upset, they know that you just need a listening ear rather than someone to bark advice at you. They’re emotionally intelligent in this way, knowing the differences in what you need.
  6. You can ugly cry around them. While they’re good at sitting in silence, they’re also good at back pats and hugs in those moments when you’re crying your eyes out. It’s okay, we’ve all been there—you ugly cry around your best friend. It’s the kind of cry where someone just broke your heart and you can hardly get words out. Your soulmate of a bestie knows just what to do in moments like these and you feel comfortable snot-crying.
  7. You know each other’s insecurities.You know that they feel extra self-conscious about their body while they know that you’re self-conscious about your laugh. You know the ins and outs of each other’s insecurities. You never use this against one another, rather you use your knowledge to be better supports.
  8. It doesn’t matter how long you go without talking, everything feels the same. You know that the mark of friendship isn’t something arbitrary like spending every day together. Rather, that’s limited and unsustainable. Instead, both of you are aware that life happens and sometimes you go a period of time without talking or seeing one another. Though when you do finally talk again, everything feels the same. It feels as if nothing has ever changed because you’re soulmates and are meant to be in each other’s lives, perhaps forever.
  9. You can sit together in silence without it being awkward. This is one of the coolest marks of deep friendship. You two can sit together side by side on your phones or do projects next to each other and not feel the need to talk. You’re so comfortable in each other’s presence that you can just live your lives… together.
  10. They believe in you.Your bestie soulmate is your biggest cheerleader. They’re the first ones you tell your successes and excitements to and they’re happy to cheer you on. This isn’t because they’re just responding to what you’re saying. Rather, they truly believe in your capabilities.
  11. They remind you of your goodness when you forget. You’re a human, you forget about how innately lovable you are. Your insecurities kick in and you get down on yourself. When this happens, your person is right there to remind you that you are so, so lovable.
  12. They’re not perfect, but they’re yours. I’m talking about all of these wonderful things about your bestie, but I haven’t talked about their imperfections yet. Sometimes they forget to call, they say the wrong thing, or they don’t say anything at all when they should have. It’s okay. Your soulmate is a human being and you don’t expect them to be perfect. Instead, you’re just happy they’re around and they’re yours.
Ginelle has been writing professionally for more than six years and has a bachelor’s degree in digital marketing & design. Her writing has appeared on Birdie, Thought Catalog, Tiny Buddha and more. You can follow her on Instagram @ginelletesta, via her Facebook page, or through her website at ginelletesta.com.