I wish everyone would stop asking me when my boyfriend and I will move in together. If I wanted to cohabitate with him, we would be shacking up already. The truth is, I don’t ever see us living under the same roof and it’s not going to change our relationship one bit — in fact, it’ll only make it stronger. I’m in love with him but I don’t want to move in together. Here’s why:
- Been There, Done That. I’ve lived with a boyfriend before and obviously, it didn’t work out. That doesn’t mean things will go sour this time around, but I’m not willing to take that chance. Part of learning from my past means I have to stop myself from making the same mistakes. He and I won’t be signing a joint lease and moving in together ever.
- I Don’t Want to Get Bored of Him. If I had to see him every single day because we lived together, I’m afraid that I’ll eventually get bored of him. Right now, our relationship is full of so much mystery and that’s what makes it exciting. If we got a place together, all the things I find endearing about him I know would probably start to annoy me.
- Our Relationship’s Fine Just the Way It Is. Actually, it’s pretty amazing. I enjoy his company but that doesn’t mean I want to wake up next to him every day. Moving in together will definitely change the dynamics of our relationship and if it isn’t already broke, why the hell would we try to fix it?
- If We Aren’t Getting Married Then What’s the Point? We haven’t even discussed where our relationship is headed, so wouldn’t us moving in together essentially be us putting the cart before the horse? Yes, we’re in love, but spending our entire lives together isn’t something that either of us is sure about as of right now. We’re just enjoying dating at this point. There’s no need to make things all complicated by getting a place together.
- My House, My Rules. A huge part of living together is learning to compromise, and that’s something I’m not ready to do. In my house, I play by my own rules. I can decorate it however I want, watch whatever shows I like all night long, and blast my favorite songs whenever I feel like it. I like having the freedom to do whatever I want without having to factor in someone else’s thoughts, wants, and feelings. Meh, call me selfish. IDGAF.
- Our Sex Life Will Suffer. What makes our sex life so amazing is the fact that we only see each other a few times a week. This gives us time to miss each other and when we reunite, our intimate moments together are hot like fire. If we move in together, I know the passion will fade away. There’s a chance we’ll get too used to each other, and soon enough, our sex life will be gone with the wind.
- I Crave Privacy. I know my boyfriend loves me just the way I am but I really don’t want him to see me when I’m walking around looking a hot mess. My privacy is important to me and it’s something I’m not willing to give up for anyone.
- Sharing Space Makes Me Ragey. I love sleeping in my bed all alone and I love having a closet full of my stuff and only my stuff. Having to share space with someone is annoying as hell. I don’t mind if he spends the night —he can even stay over a couple of days if he likes — but moving in together is taking things way too far.
- I Want to Be Excited to See Him. I love when we make plans during the week to see each other. I’m always so eager to see him since we both have busy schedules. When we have our date nights, we get to reconnect and catch up on everything that’s been going on in our lives. This is why I don’t ever want to move in with him. There’ll be no more mystery and no more excitement. Seeing him day after day would just become the norm, and soon enough, the love will start to fizzle.
- I Don’t Want to See Him at His Worst. By “worst,” I mean I don’t want to catch a whiff of whatever comes out of his ass after he eats a bunch of refried beans, and I don’t care to see how he acts after he gets into a huge argument with his boss. I like how fun and easy our relationship is. Moving in together will just mess everything up for us. We’re not married, so I haven’t even signed up for the whole “for better or for worse” spiel. I’m more than content with only seeing him at his best, and the only way that will continue to happen is if we never ever live under the same roof.