Love Sucks When You’re A Sensitive Person

Falling in love is intense for just about anyone, but when you feel things more deeply than most, it’s like a whole new world. Sensitive people experience the world differently, and that especially includes relationships. If you constantly feel like you’re on an emotional roller coaster, you’ve probably felt these things while in love:

  1. Everything is more intense. When your world gets shaken up, it feels like you could almost die. Things that may seem trivial to one person can completely turn you on your head. On the flip side, the things that most people consider “good” are absolutely fantastic for you. Sure, life’s more intense, but it’s better than not giving a crap about anything.
  2. You get really close really fast. That guy you’re casually dating will quickly turn into a complicated love affair in what seems like mere seconds. When you’re a sensitive person, you have no problem baring your heart to your partner right from the beginning. It might scare him, but it doesn’t scare you.
  3. You’re not afraid to show your emotions. People have said that you wear your heart on your sleeve. For you, emotions run deep and wild. Every day is full of ups and downs, and your relationships are no different. You wear your feelings like a badge of honor and often wonder why everyone seems so cold and guarded.
  4. You need a lot of alone time. Sensitive people love being in spaces that are calm and quiet. You need time to yourself to recharge, and sometimes, that’s hard for your partner to accept. He needs to understand that if you don’t feel like going out, then you don’t feel like going out. If you’re dating someone who constantly needs you to be a social butterfly, it’s not going to work out for very long.
  5. You need a partner who can empathize. You find yourself attracted to those with tender hearts to soothe you when you start getting the feels. A guy who gets frustrated when you cry over something sad in a movie isn’t going to last long with you. When you find someone who doesn’t even think twice when you’ve burst into tears on the subway, you know you’ve found a real gem.
  6. You sometimes lose yourself in relationships. When you get into a relationship, it takes over your entire world. You think about your partner constantly… way more than you care to let him know. You don’t just dip your toes in; you dive head-first into the abyss that is love. You can’t help it — these feelings in your heart are just too strong.
  7. Communication is a challenge. Sometimes your emotions get the best of you and turn your brain into a pile of mush. You might want to tell your partner how annoying it is when he’s late picking you up, but the words end up getting stuck on the way out. You know how much seemingly harmless words can hurt, so you’re extremely careful with them. Unfortunately, that can often lead to a total avoidance of communication in your relationship.
  8. You cry over pretty much everything. When you’re sad, you cry. When you’re happy, you cry. When you’re angry, you cry. You get the picture. You’re easily touched and have cried numerous times in both private and public over the silliest things. You don’t try to, of course; you simply have very active tear ducts that respond to anything and everything.
  9. Love is a big deal to you. Love is more than just a thing to have; it’s a state of being. It’s when you’re most yourself. It means everything to you. When you’re in love, you feel like you could fly, like nothing in the world could bring you down. Oh great, now I’m gonna cry.
  10. You care… a lot. In the modern dating game, you feel like you’re a unicorn. While everyone else is running around trying to show how much they don’t care, you’re over here sending sentimental texts to your current fling. You realize that life is too short to half-ass a relationship — not that it’s even possible for you to hide your feelings anyway.
Jennifer is a playwright, dancer, and theatre nerd living in the big city of Toronto, Canada. She studied Creative Writing at Concordia University and works as a lifestyle writer who focuses on Health, B2B, Tech, Psychology, Science, Food Trends and Millennial Life. She's also a coreographer, playwright, and lyricist, with choreography credits for McMaster University’s “Spring Awakening,” “Roxanne” for the Guelph Contemporary Dance Festival, and “The Beaver Den” for The LOT, among others.

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