How To Make A Guy Jealous Even Though You Really Shouldn’t

Let me start by saying that it’s never a good idea to try to make someone jealous. It’s a game and not a very nice one. You shouldn’t have to mess with someone’s head for them to like you. However, if you’re going to do it, you might as well do it right. Here are 10 effective ways to make a guy jealous.

  1. Go Out Out For A ladies’ night. Dudes hate ladies’ nights. In their mind, you and your friends are getting dressed up for the sole purpose of being hit on. (They’re not wrong.) No guy wants the girl they like at the bars without them. Even if he’s confident, he’ll feel a pit in his stomach when you say, “I’m going out with the girls.”
  2. Look Absolutely Amazing In His Presence. Make sure you look absolutely amazing when you’re together, even if you’re just going to the movies. Most guys have a type or characteristic that they really like. Figure out what that is and use it against him. Does he like when girls show their legs or when their hair flows down their backs? Not only will you have his attention but you’ll have the attention of every guy around you, which is something he’ll definitely notice.
  3. Hang Out With Your Guy Friends. I don’t care if he’s a friend from kindergarten — if you hang out with him, your guy will think you’re hooking up. Just make sure you don’t give too much detail. He doesn’t need to know your friend prefers men or is married to a wonderful woman. Keep it vague so he’s left on edge.
  4. Ignore His Texts. Don’t respond to his messages the second you receive them. Give him a chance to wonder what you’re doing. Better yet, don’t respond and post something on social media — that’ll really get his blood boiling. The best way to make a guy jealous is to show him you have your own life. He needs to know you’re not sitting around waiting for him to reach out.
  5. Put Him In The Friend Zone (Sometimes). Don’t always initiate or return his advances. Even when you want to hook up, leave him wanting more and wondering exactly why you’re not in “the mood.” Kiss him on the cheek instead of the mouth. And call him “buddy” instead of “babe.” We’re not saying you should friend zone him all the time. After all, you like him and want him to like you. Simply friend-zoning him once a week will suffice.
  6. Ask About Another Guy. Do you know what guys don’t like? Hearing another man’s name come out of your mouth. They don’t want to hear how funny Roger is at work or how much you miss hanging out with some guy from college. If you want to make him really jealous, ask how one of his friends is doing. Be casual about it though: You don’t want to make it too obvious.
  7. Create Competition. Some people get complacent when they don’t think they have competition. So maybe you don’t have a ton of guy friends. So what? You can create competition by talking about your ex-boyfriend. Mentioning his name will instantly put a chill up your guy’s spine. He’ll drive himself nuts wondering why your ex is on your mind, which is exactly what you want.
  8. Keep A Busy Schedule. “Why are you always at work?” “I feel like we never see each other.” These are the kinds of things you want him to say because it means he’s jealous. Chances are, he doesn’t think you’re actually working late or with friends — he thinks you’re with someone else (or ignoring him). Either way, if you want to make him jealous, keep a busy schedule.
  9. Compliment Other Guys. I’m not suggesting you straight up flirt with another guy in front of him. That would be messed up. With that said, there’s nothing wrong with being overly friendly. Compliment his friends and ask questions that show you have an interest in their lives. He won’t like it. No matter how much he trusts his buddies, he’ll have a problem with you guys getting so chummy.
  10. Use Social Media To Your Advantage. Social media is a powerful platform and you should use it to your advantage. If you want to make him jealous, post pictures that show how much fun you’re having! Trust us, he’ll feel some type of way seeing you happy and smiling when he’s not around. Remind him you’re a strong and independent woman who can have fun without a guy.
Jordan White is a writer based in Scottsdale, Arizona with more than 8 years of experience. She graduated from Northern Arizona University with a degree in Rhetoric and Creative Writing in 2015 and while there, she wrote for The Daily Wildcat. She has since written for sites including FanBread, and, of course, Bolde. You can find about more her on Facebook. She has a passion for giving her audience something to laugh about and despises the heat more than anything.