Is He A Mama’s Boy Or Does He Just Love His Mom?

A guy who loves his mom is great. A guy who loves his mom too much, however, can be an issue. Dating a mama’s boy is a bad idea, but telling the difference between him and a guy who simply cares for the woman who brought him into the world isn’t always easy. If he’s displaying these signs, though, you’re never going to be the most important woman in his life:

  1. He’s constantly communicating with her. It’s one thing to check in with your loved ones on a regular basis, but if he’s pretty much constantly calling or texting her, you’re just asking for trouble by staying with him. After all, do you want your boyfriend to call his mom every single time you hang out? Probably not.
  2.  He wants you to hang out with his mom all the time. He can’t imagine that you wouldn’t want to, and he’s determined to make you two the best of friends. If he just loves his momhe’s happy if you guys get along, but doesn’t force the issue.
  3. He references his mom in every single conversation. No matter how great his mom is, there’s no reason to bring her up ALL the time. Anyone who loves their family will talk about them every now and again, but it’s a red flag if he seriously never shuts up about his mom.
  4. He still lives at home. More than that, his mom still cooks him dinner, does his laundry, and cleans his bedroom. There’s something super sweet about a guy who visits his mom on the regular, but it it seems like he’s never going to get his own place, he likes being taken care of a bit too much.
  5. He can’t make a decision without his mom’s input. He’s not confident and secure in who he is, so he has to rely on his mom to make all his choices for him. A grown-ass man needs to make his own decisions, and while it’s fine if he asks for her opinion every now and again, he needs to be able to navigate life without her help, too.
  6. He’s looking for someone who can act just like his mom. He doesn’t want a girlfriend — he wants a caretaker that he can have sex with. Gross. It’s possible for a guy to love his mom without wanting another woman in his life to take on practically the same role.
  7. He tells his mom everything about you and your relationship. Yeah, it’s exactly as creepy as it sounds. He can ask her for girl advice when it comes to planning dates and a wedding, but there’s no reason for his mom to know every little detail about every little fight you have.
  8. He never asks you for advice. He doesn’t need to. His mom has already told him everything. The fact that you two have been dating for years is irrelevant to him — his mom will always be the one he goes crying to when life gets hard. At some point, he needs to confide in you more if your relationship has any hope of working out.
  9. He never opens up to you. He always has this idea in the back of his mind that you’re not good enough for him… because his mom put it there. The mothers of mama’s boys tend to be over-possessive of their kids, so they have a hard time accepting that any other woman could take their place in their son’s life.
  10. He thinks he is totally and completely perfect. He never does anything wrong, and if you tell him otherwise, he’ll throw a fit. His mom has told him his whole life that he’s flawless, so he’s not going to believe you when you tell him that he’s in the wrong. He can’t accept criticism, and you’re never going to get anywhere when you two disagree.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.