If you’ve recently had your heart broken, you shouldn’t mope around, missing what you once had. You’re not the one who’s losing out. Your ex is—and that’s not just some bogus cliché. It’s actually the truth, and it’s time for you to start believing it. Any man who breaks your heart is losing out on all of these things:
- A chance at happiness. You might not be a perfect girlfriend, but you’re pretty damn close. You would’ve tried your hardest to make him happy, but since he decided to break your heart, another lucky guy is going to get all of that happiness instead.
- Hot sex. You could’ve given him the best night of his life. You have plenty of tricks up your sleeve, but he’s never going to get the pleasure of experiencing them, because he’ll be too busy playing around with his right hand.
- A woman who knows how to handle herself. When he was with you, he wasn’t stuck with some needy girl who couldn’t open a jar on her own. He was with someone who knew how to take care of herself, and could’ve helped take care of him, too.
- Bragging rights. You’re someone worth bragging about. He could’ve shown you off to the world, and boasted about dating the sexiest girl alive, but now he’s lost out on the opportunity.
- Friendship. It’s easy to find someone to date, but it’s hard to find a genuine friend. Now that you’re gone, he won’t have someone around to talk to late at night or to help him feel better after a rough day.
- A standing date. It’s going to be hard for him to find someone that’ll be willing to see crummy concerts and movies with him. You would’ve went without hesitation, but now that’s not an option for him.
- His support system. You would’ve been there to cheer him on, but now he’s all alone. He’ll no longer have you by his side, reassuring him that everything is going to be okay.
- His future. You could’ve been his future, but he decided to rewrite history. Breaking your heart means that he’s no longer guaranteed to have a fulfilling life with an amazing woman.
- Love. Even if you still love him, he won’t be able to feel that love now that you’re out of his life. That’s going to be hard on him, so don’t assume that you’re the only one who’s going through a rough time.
- His mind. He’s losing his mind if he hurt someone as amazing as you. That’s why you shouldn’t feel bad about your situation, because he obviously wasn’t thinking clearly.
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