A man who’s unhappily single has lamented that there’s “no hope for men” on dating apps after seeing how many matches his female colleague was getting in comparison to himself. In a now-viral set of TikTok clips, Jeremy Cryer says men are at a disadvantage on dating apps given that his coworker had received 39 matches only two days after joining Hinge. Could he have a point?
- Men aren’t getting as many profile ‘likes’ and matches. As Jeremy says, women get men flocking to them on dating apps while men are sitting around even waiting for one or two women to come their way. “Do you realize for guys we have to wait, like, weeks to get likes, let alone a person that we are interested in to send us a ‘like’ … [or] when we send them a ‘like,’ for them to accept it?” he tells his colleague. “We’re, like, shooting a basketball in the dark… blindfolded, backwards, and hoping that it lands in a goal that’s almost smaller than the actual ball.”
- Maybe women are just more selective? That seems to be the case according to 2021 data from SwipeStats.io. They found that while women tend to swipe more than men in general, we’re way more choosy about who we “like” and express interest in. Generally speaking, women receive around three matches per day while men receive one. However, they get bout seven messages per day and send about five. In other words, men aren’t actually at a disadvantage, they’re just not offering enough to interest women, it would seem.
- A lot of people did agree with Jeremy. Not just women either! As one woman shared: “I sat with my guy friend and we did a 5 minute bumble swipe where we had to swipe on everyone. I got 55 matches he got 2. It’s so rough for guys.”
- That being said, it’s more about quality than quantity. Another user pointed out that a woman might get 39 matches, but out of those, probably only two or three are worth responding to. In other words, it doesn’t matter how many people you match with, it just matters if those matches are any good.
- Jeremy’s colleague did eventually pare down her messages. Of the 39 people she matched with, Jeremy said in a follow-up video that she’d narrowed them down to 17 men and was talking to a few “off the site.” Sadly, I bet only one or two of those show any actual promise when it comes to going on a date.
I feel like it’s fair to say that it doesn’t matter if you’re a man or a woman – dating is hard for everyone. For people who just want to find someone awesome to hang out with and maybe build an actual relationship with, the struggle is real. Keep the faith, though. It’s out there!