10 Signs You Have A Mature, Long-Lasting Type Of Love

There’s nothing better than meeting the person who seems to be “The One.” Suddenly, all of your dating disasters of the past make sense — they were all a step forward towards real happiness. If you want to know for sure if your relationship will stay the course, here are 10 signs that your love is meant to last.

  1. You can openly talk about sex. You can discuss your turn-ons, turn-offs, and the topic in general without feeling embarrassed. It’s not an embarrassing topic — without sex, none of us would be here. But, it shows the two of you are open and aren’t afraid to be a little vulnerable in front of each other. With partners you don’t feel confident around, you may consider the topic to be off-limits and, as a consequence, not be truly satisfied.
  2. You find no reason to get jealous of their coworkers. A new, young receptionist was just hired at their workplace, but you’re not concerned. You know your partner is mature and doesn’t have a wandering eye. Plus, you know that not all single people are out there trying to steal your partner. There are plenty of people who just want to go to work every day without having anyone assume they’re out to cause trouble.
  3. Neither of you take “alone time” personally. It’s a wonderful feeling when you realize that your partner isn’t tired of you or mad at you — they just need some alone time every once in a while, and so do you. When you come to this realization and realize that you both have individual hobbies that require some time, your relationship can breathe a little bit. Not only is it mature to take time for yourself, but it’s also healthy.
  4. You don’t expect anything crazy from dates. When you’ve matured with your relationship, you realize that even just renting a movie at home is a fun night. You don’t need to dress up or go to the cool bar downtown in order to flaunt your love. The most important thing is time together.
  5. You don’t mind spending time with their family. It may not be your favorite thing, but unless they’ve been really harmful or abusive, you know that your partner’s family is all part of the package. They should be welcoming with yours, as well. There’ll eventually be talks about boundaries, but as long as you’re not jealous of their mom for talking on the phone with your partner, you’re in a healthy place.
  6. You’re on the same page about your timeline. The worst thing ever is when you need to give someone an ultimatum regarding if and when you’ll get married. When a couple isn’t on the same page, things can get rocky. But since you’re both mature and open with communication, you know exactly what to expect for your future — you’ve already had that conversation early on and learned how to manage expectations.
  7. They’re your best friend. When something good or bad happens, they’re the first person you contact. You know that he’s your greatest cheerleader. Even when something bad happens, you can’t lie to them and make it seem like nothing’s going on. Being able to talk and confide in each other is huge. It’s also a sign that your relationship isn’t just based on physical attraction.
  8. You can handle long-distance spells. Being in an LDR isn’t ideal, but some couples need to be apart sometimes due to work meetings or family obligations. Even though you don’t love being apart, you both know how to handle the situation. In fact, you already have the perfect schedule set out for FaceTime sessions.
  9. You’ve given up hot tools for your normal, curly hair. I’m not saying that it’s not nice to primp every once in a while. It’s just that you know this person likes you for who you are, and made it fairly obvious that you don’t have to spend that additional 30 minutes every morning with your flat iron. The way you present your hair is completely up to you. Still, it’s nice to feel free and go with the flow with your natural look, knowing they’re into it.
  10. Both of you are done with games. You wouldn’t even think of trying to make this person jealous. It’s just a waste of time. From the first date, the two of you seemed to agree that you’re both taking this seriously, and would vow to be nothing but honest with each other. Games are for teenagers. What you have is a mature, long-lasting relationship built on trust.
Karen Belz is a New Jersey native who is currently living in Maryland. She has a Bachelor’s Degree in Speech Communication with a focus in Broadcasting and Print Media Studies from Millersville University of Pennsylvania. Since graduating, she has written for sites like LittleThings, HelloGiggles, and Scary Mommy and is currently an e-commerce editor at Bustle.

When she's not writing, she enjoys making her phone run out of memory after taking too many photos of her dog. You can find her on Twitter @karenebelz or on Instagram @karenbelz.