Men, Before You Call Us “Crazy” Make Sure You’ve Never Done These 10 Things

Women get called “crazy” all the time over anything and everything. But the truth is, most men regularly do the same things that they believe make us irrational. If you’ve ever done any of these perfectly normal things, you don’t have the right to criticize us when we do them, too:

  1. Shown interest in someone We often get called insane for acting like we actually like the guy that we’ve just started dating. We’re not interested in playing games and pretending that we couldn’t care less about them. If we like someone, we can admit it, and we don’t think that’s anything other than totally normal.
  2. Texted someone first When you text us, it’s because you’re a.) into us and b.) actually expect us to respond. What a concept. When we text you, it’s apparently because we’re a.) crazy and b.) well, um, crazy. Doesn’t make much sense, does it? Wanting to joke around, make plans, or generally form a connection is perfectly normal, but you’d never guess it from the way some guys respond to women texting first.
  3. Cared about a new relationship If you never get invested in a new relationship (or new almost-relationship), then you’re either made of stone or a really good liar. It’s totally normal and healthy to care about how things work out with someone new, but for some reason, women always get crap for it when we get invested in a new love interest.
  4. Expected common decency Calling us crazy because we expect you to mean what you say, show up when you say you will, and generally be a decent human being is probably even more insane than anything else. We’re not asking for the moon — just a basic amount of respect — but you’d never guess it by the way some dudes get worked up when we call them out on their crap.
  5. Wanted to be a priority When we get called “clingy” it’s usually because we’ve explained to you that if you ignore us, cancel plans, or bail on us, that’s not going to work. It’s super uncool if you treat us like crap. But hey, continue to insult us — we’re obviously the ones with the problem here.
  6. Tried to make plans It’s a real shame that when we ask when you’d like to hang out, you lash out and call us everything from clingy to crazy. You’d think that wanting to spend time with your new partner would be normal, but apparently it’s only something that psychopaths do.
  7. Had “The Talk” Oh yes, The Talk: when we bring up where things are going and whether we’re going to be in your future. You act like we’re being nuts because, hey, we were just hanging out, being casual, having fun. No one said anything about the future. But we can guarantee that you’ve brought up where things are going with at least one person that you’ve dated.
  8. Had emotions You may think that you’re above feeling anything and that we’re crazy for having emotions, but we think you’re insane if you think that feeling nothing is a badge of honor. Getting upset when things go wrong and being happy when things go well isn’t insane — it’s human. We don’t fault you for showing how you feel, so why do you think it’s okay to act like we’re being irrational when we do the same?
  9. Gotten excited It sucks that when we show the slightest bit of excitement over you, you tell us to take a step back and calm down. If you think that no one is ever worth getting excited over, then you’re the crazy one.
  10. Gotten jealous Okay, so obsessing over every single member of the opposite sex who talks to your partner is a bit much, but everyone gets a little jealous sometimes. When you do it, you’re just “being a guy”, but when we do it, we’re suddenly “psycho.” I think it’s time to accept that feeling a little weird when someone starts hitting on the person we like isn’t out of the ordinary.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.