Remember This When Men Don’t Realize You’re Amazing

Every woman carries goddess potential within her, but not everyone she meets will see it. It can be hard to deal with this when you’re trying to find the right partner, but when it seems like every guy out there doesn’t appreciate you for who you are, just remember these things:

  1. It’s their problem. The men who don’t realize that you’re a goddess are blind. They have their own issues, and it’s a decent bet that they don’t treat any of the women in their lives the way they deserve to be treated. The best thing you can do in response to this is to shrug it off and keep doing you. Don’t step out of the house without remembering how amazing you are.
  2. They might be scared of your strength. To some men, a strong woman is a terrifying thing. They don’t even know how to handle it. That’s fine — it just means that you have even more reason to search out someone who DOES know how special it is to be with a woman who’s as powerful and independent as you are.
  3. They’re insecure. Low self-confidence makes people act out in vicious, often cruel ways. The guys who fail to see the goddess inside of you may take a little longer to come to terms with their own insecurities and flaws, the areas in which they are lacking. The unfortunate result is that they often end up taking things out on you. You don’t need to tolerate this crap — leave those little boys behind and keep being your flawless self.
  4. You have no reason to “tone yourself down.” So what if guys can’t handle who you are? As long as you’re happy with yourself, that’s all that matters. Don’t let any man tell you that you’re “too much” or that you need to be less than who you are. We all have our flaws, and if one of yours is that you shine too brightly, then so be it.
  5. You deserve better than a man who’s intimidated by you. If a strong woman is going to have a man by her side, he’s going to need to be as strong as she is. There’s no reason for you to settle for a guy who tries to puff himself up to make himself feel or appear better than you. If you can’t find a guy who appreciates your power rather than being scared of it, you’re better off dazzling all by yourself.
  6. Your value doesn’t depend on any man. Too many men act as though a man’s stamp of approval is the end-game, but the truth is that your value comes in your inner beauty and how you see yourself. All the most powerful goddesses in mythology were able to handle their own stuff without a man, and you’re no different.
  7. They don’t need to see your beauty for you to be beautiful. Just because a guy doesn’t recognize how gorgeous you are both outside and inside doesn’t mean that you aren’t beautiful. A man’s attraction to you is a “him” thing, not a “you” thing. It’s not his fault if you’re not his type, but don’t let that make you feel like you’re any less gorgeous than you really are.
  8. You date men, not little boys. A guy who negs you like he’s still on the playground pulling pigtails is one who will never be worth your time. He’ll never see how glorious you are because he doesn’t even have his grown-up eyes yet. Tell him to keep his games to himself and keep your mind and heart open to an adult who will treat you with the respect you deserve.
  9. You’re too good to fall for tricks. A goddess will not change her mind because a man insults her, which is all too often the response to turning a guy down. You’re above insults and manipulation, especially from guys who don’t deserve you in the first place. If a guy tries to mess with your head to get you eating out of the palm of his hand, remember that you’re the one who’s in control here.
  10. You’re better off alone than with one of these jerks. Even when you’re at your loneliest, it’s still crucial to remember that it’s not worth it to be with someone who dulls your sparkle. The man who will truly appreciate you is out there somewhere, but you’re never going to find him if you settle for someone who isn’t worth your time or energy. If none of these dudes are giving you the affection you deserve, you’re better off spending some time single and treating yourself in a way that makes you happy.
west virginia native, new hampshire transplant, parisian in the depths of my unimpressed soul. owner of an impressive resting bitch face. writer and reader. fluent in sarcasm and snark. lover of lower case and the oxford comma.