You Might Be A Good Guy, But That Doesn’t Mean You’re The Right Guy For Me

You Might Be A Good Guy, But That Doesn’t Mean You’re The Right Guy For Me ©iStock/clownbusiness

I’m so over bad boys and I’m so done with BS. I want a good guy, but I also want the right guy. I’m so happy there are guys who don’t cheat or lie and are genuinely interested in finding love, but just because you’re a good guy doesn’t mean I’m going to be into you.

  1. Good guys don’t finish last. Having that outlook might turn you into a loser in love, though. If you’re always down about love, then what type of women will you attract? Negativity breeds negativity, so try being positive about your chances of finding love. After all, a little confidence goes a long way.
  2. There’s no such thing as the “friend zone.” It’s something guys made up to make them feel better about rejection. I wouldn’t rather be friends with you because you’re just “too nice”; I’d rather be friends with you because I just don’t see you in a romantic way. That has nothing to do with you being a nice guy, it has to do with matching personalities, and you and I just don’t gel.
  3. You still have to find the right girl. Just because you’re a good guy doesn’t mean every girl is going to want you. There’s a girl out there for you, but maybe I’m just not her. I want the right guy and I’m sure you want the right girl — we shouldn’t be settling for each other.
  4. You might be nice, but I still have to feel a spark. I won’t reject you because you’re too nice — I’ll reject you because we don’t have any chemistry. You might be a really great guy, but if there’s no passion, then I have no interest. I want to fall head over heels in love, not just choose to love then next guy who comes my way. When it’s real love, there is no choice.
  5. I’m not interested in bad boys… but that doesn’t mean I have to be interested in you. I’m not going to fall madly in love with every good guy that walks my way. I might be interested in the good guys, but not just any guy will do. You don’t fall in love with a type, you fall in love with a person, and you’re just not the guy for me.
  6. I’m looking for Mr. Right. I’m not looking for just anyone, I’m looking for “The One.” Not just any good guy will do. I deserve to be treated right, but I also deserve to be happy. You might make me feel good about myself, but I want to feel good about you too. You’re a really great guy, you’re just not the right guy, and that explanation should be more than enough.
  7. I don’t want a guy who’s just good enough. You’re a good guy. You might never cheat on me or try to talk me into anything I really don’t want to do, but that’s the bare minimum. Just because you’re nice to me doesn’t mean I owe you love or anything else. You’re a good enough guy, but I bet neither of us wants to settle for just good enough.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.