Mini-Efforts You Should Make In Your Relationship Every Day

People think that once they’ve finally met someone worthwhile, gone through the dating process, and become “relationship official,” the hard work ends there. This couldn’t be further than the truth. You should do these 10 daily things if you want your relationship to survive and thrive in the digital age.

  1. Say good morning and goodnight. Firstly, be sure to greet your other half with a friendly “good morning.” Whether it’s through a text or in person, this starts the day off on the right foot for you both as a couple. Similarly, bidding your partner “goodnight” is a nice way to let them know that you’re thinking about them right before you nod off to sleep. Bliss.
  2. Give them at least one compliment. You should also compliment your love at least once a day. From “amazing shoes” to “it’s so great how kind you are to strangers,” a daily compliment not only shows your S.O. that you’re paying attention to them, but it also demonstrates how much you care.
  3. Pick out at least one thing you appreciate your partner for. Even on bad days where you’re screaming at each other because someone forgot to turn the tap off when you left the house and now your home resembles a sinking Titanic, find one thing your partner has done that day that you’re grateful for. It could be that they brought you home a super thoughtful gift just because or something small like they make the best turkey sandwiches you’ve ever had. Either way, find the good in your other half daily and acknowledge it to yourself so that you never forget to appreciate them.
  4. Ask them how they are. It sounds simple, but you’d be amazed at how many couples forget to ask each other how they are on any given day once they’ve been in a relationship for a long time (or are living together). Be sure to check in with your loved one and ask them how they’re feeling every now and then. After all, it’s often the little gestures that make people happy.
  5. Ask them about their day. In addition to asking how they are, you should also ask your partner how their day has been, whether this is through WhatsApp or in person. If you don’t have communication, you don’t have anything. By asking about their day, you’re showing an interest in their job/college course/sporting event/internship/travels/social soirée (delete as applicable).
  6. Tell them about your day. In the same way, you should always chat with your partner about your day. Tell them what’s going on with you and what your daily wins were so that you can celebrate together. This helps to keep the communication flowing which then deepens your emotional intimacy. 
  7. Be affectionate. Speaking of intimacy, on the days that you see your partner, you should be overly affectionate with them. Whether this is just kissing them hello and goodbye or spending multiple hours in the bedroom, physical intimacy is another factor that keeps your spark flaming hot among the mundane everyday activities of life.
  8. Make a future plan together. Sometimes couples who have been together for a long time get stuck in a bit of a rut. They get wrapped up in the present and forget to plan fun things for them to do together. That’s why a good relationship practice is to talk about future plans with your partner every single day. Even if it’s just something small like what you’re going to do that weekend or big and life-changing like your upcoming backpacking trip around the world, always have something in place for you guys to look forward to. It keeps things fresh and interesting.
  9. Do something nice for them. If you want to keep the fire burning, you could also go out of your way to do something nice for your other half on a daily basis. From cooking them dinner to letting them watch sport on TV instead of your beloved The Bachelor, actions can often speak louder than words in a relationship. Trust me, your partner will be really grateful for your kindness.
  10. Tell them how much you love them. Even though actions can speak louder than words, words are still incredibly important in a relationship. You should tell your partner every day that you love them and appreciate what you’ve got while you have it because you just never know what’s around the corner. 
Katie Davies is a British freelance writer who has built a career creating lifestyle content that caters to the modern woman. When she's not sipping tea, shopping, or exploring a new city, you'll probably find her blogging about her fashion and travel adventures at